How do you stop panicking?

[Millypad]

I’m pregnant after a miscarriage and took two years to conceive again thanks to pcos and irregular periods. I’m 11 weeks and in an absolute state tonight, probably completely unreasonably. I’ve yet again convinced myself that it’s over because I don’t feel as sick, my boobs don’t hurt so much, I don’t have as much cm. My DH is wonderfully supportive but he’s got his work cut out for him, bless him. I can’t stop thinking the worst. I had a scan at 8+2 and saw a healthy heartbeat but I just don’t have enough trust in my own body or hormones to carry this through. My 12 week scan is on the 1st May. How on Earth to get through these waves of panic before then without driving self or hubs bonkers?

Trust me. You will feel like this for the full length of the pregnancy.

You just need to try to stay positive. Easier said than done.

Good luck.

I suffer with this a lot. This is my first pregnancy and I was a bag of nerves for the first 12 weeks. Even now every time I think I can relax I find something else to worry about, so I sympathise completely.

However, the heartbeat is an awesome sign! I think the risk of miscarriage when you've seen a healthy heartbeat is less than 0.5%, i.e. you have more than 199 chances in 200 of not miscarrying (yes, I did way too much research). Really do try to relax. Stress is no good for you (or for baby).

I found putting the radio on helped distract me from my own thoughts - the kind of thoughts that start running in the background when you're washing up or cooking, for example and not keeping your brain busy with other things.

Symptoms do start to tail off at the end of the first trimester, I'm pretty sure I was largely feeling better by 11 weeks too. Good luck xx

I was like this for almost my whole pregnancy, my mum told me now I’m having a baby the worry won’t stop even until adulthood. There’s always something to stress you out, you just have to think about all the positive things. My son is 6 months old now and mum was right, I still worry.

Thanks all, you’re right- nothing to do except try to remain positive. I just wish I could sleep from now until the scan (although work might have something to say about that...)

Hi @millypad - I’m the same as you. PCOS and took a while to concieve. We were just about to start the fertility process before we conceived (oh the joys of the irregular cycles hey!) :)
To be honest, i think there is always something to worry about if your nervous about the pregnancy. I’m exactly the same and coming up To 20 weeks. It’s gettitng easier, but it hasn’t gone away for me. First I said I’d feel better after a private scan at 9 weeks (I had a few bleeds), then I worried again about a week after n said I would be ok after The 12 week scan, then the 16 week heart beat check...my latest worry is the 20 week scan on Friday and that I have felt no movement yet. Even though that’s normal and I even heard the heart beat last night at triage (another bleed - I’m prone to them!).
I think it’s more trying to manage it than get over it completely in my opinion if it’s something you can’t relax about. I’ve accepted now that I’m just going to be a worrier - after all it was a long slog getting to this point and we’re terrified of it going wrong!
But try to think positive. Thinking negative will not help in the long run. Maybe speak to your midwife. I did and I was surprised at how supportive she was :) that and the statistics are in your favour. P.S symptoms mean nothing. I’ve had pretty much zero symptoms from the start which i think is what started my anxiety off! Still don’t really feel pregnant and I’m almost half way! X