Yelled at on the Tube for no reason!

[Moorhen]

Still speechless about something that happened on way home last night. Had been out for dinner with DH and we were heading home on the Tube. Now, I haven't had to stand on the Tube for more than 30 seconds for about 3 months (I'm 30+6), everyone has been so kind.
But last night I'm standing by the doors as the train came in. BY them, NOT in front of them. And this women shoves her way off the train but as she did, stepped over to me (had to walk sideways to do it) raised her voice and told me to MOVE, what made me think I could stand there "shoving my stomach out at everybody"!!!
Was too stunned to do more than tell her to f**k off as she walked away. 30 seconds later was furious to realise that I should have pointed out "your stomach's bigger than mine, darling".
But honestly!
Any other bouts of random nastiness encountered, or was this just a lonely freak?

clearly a mentalist

don't worry about it anymore

random freak
you get them on the tube even whe you're not pregnant

I remember two boys who spent 10min shouting at me on a bus once because I was... reading a book.

i have to say lonely freak - don't take it to heart.

Lonely freak. Maybe upset at something that's happened to her, ot being pg herself, but that doesn't excuse the rudeness, of course.

I had my head bitten off during a phone call at work yesterday, also for no reason, so I sort of know how it feels...

not being pg herself

A woman stormed past me on the escaltor when I was pregnant and said "Out of the way F bitch c even though I wasn't in the way. I was shocked and upset and the people I was with shouted back at her. It was only when we got on the tube and saw her again we realised she had Tourettes and was calling everyone a c which made me feel better. Probably someone else with medical or mental health issues, try not to worry about it.x

Sorry to hear that- maybe she was jealous?

I went on the tube for the first time this pregnancy last night at 37 weeks.

Within about 2 seconds of getting on a "nice young man" had offered me his seat.

I was actually really surprised, as despite being huge, I didn't think that people still gave up their seats on public transport anymore.

How horrid for you. Woman clearly barking.

I love that word suzywong - mentalist, it's one of my favs

Public transport does seem to attract the nutter's, that's why I can't wait to pass my driving test

Although I have to say I get the tube 3 days a week and as soon as you have an obvious bump you do tend to get offered a seat - usually men, you'd think would be the other way round.

You're right - sometimes I've had a choice of two or three seats! People are generally really good as long as they notice (the iPod is a bit of a curse as far as that goes...).

Which made nutter woman even more of a shock.

the tube is full of mentalists. When I had to commute they always sat next to me.

Ishoos.

barbamama, I get what you say about women on public transport. my dh travels daily on a busy route and says that the women are always far more pushy than the men in terms of getting seats. Not sure why that is. Maybe they haven't be taugth courtesy and think that chivalry doesn't apply to them so they don't need to give up their seats and can barge everyone else out of the way to get one!

Glad to hear that all off you with bumps have been getting seats

I'm shocked by the lack of courtesy on public transport these days. I'm currently 16 & a half weeks pg, so don't have a noticeable bump when I have my coat on, so don't expect to be offered a seat.
However, last week I was on the Metro (our local equivalent of the tube) when an old man shuffled on with a walking stick. The carriage was full of teenage boys and people in their twenties, and no-one offered him a seat. I gave him mine and he was so grateful to me that I could have burst into tears.

I have also been on the Metro when a man has offered his seat to a 'pregnant' lady, only to find out she wasn't pregnant, just fat . Poor bloke looked so embarrassed .

I've also been the subject of a random outburst by a complete stranger. A bloke once shouted to me that I was a 'fing Italian b*'. This was really puzzling as I don't look typically 'Italian' - i.e. I don't have dark hair & an olive complexion .

If someone is rude to you, don't take it personally. Rudeness is their problem, not yours. Just be glad you have better manners than them. That's what I try to do anyway.

my first few months in london... for some reason when ever I got on a bus someone on the bus or outside would come and bang on the window and yell "child of satan" at me!! This happened maybe half a dozen times.
It was weird! I fortunately got a banger, so avoided the mentlers for a while, but still seems to happen sometimes. I also switch off lights when I walk past them... but htis also has been better recently- or perhaps since having children i'm not going out in the dark as much!!!!!!!!!!!!!

i think that is the problem - until you are 6 months pg or so (or very skinny to start with) people are worried about offering someone a seat when they are just overweight. I often see people looking and trying to make up their mind. I find lots of back holding, sighing and sticking your bump out helps! I also sometimes get a pregancny mag out and read it really obviously - works everytime!

First pg, the only person that was ever really out of order was a mid twenties woman - a man signalled me I could have his seat on the train a bitfurther down and as I began shuffling my way down towards it gratefully (was 2 weeks before I gave birth) this bitch from the other end of the ailse legged it down and sat in it. She refused to move even when the man said he had given it up for me!

That's the only time tho, apart from people just ignoring/not noticing with newspapers etc. Seriously, you really appreciate it towards the end and I know it is not a right so tell your dh/dp's to keep doing it!

i think that is the problem - until you are 6 months pg or so (or very skinny to start with) people are worried about offering someone a seat when they are just overweight. I often see people looking and trying to make up their mind. I find lots of back holding, sighing and sticking your bump out helps! I also sometimes get a pregancny mag out and read it really obviously - works everytime!

First pg, the only person that was ever really out of order was a mid twenties woman - a man signalled me I could have his seat on the train a bitfurther down and as I began shuffling my way down towards it gratefully (was 2 weeks before I gave birth) this bitch from the other end of the ailse legged it down and sat in it. She refused to move even when the man said he had given it up for me!

That's the only time tho, apart from people just ignoring/not noticing with newspapers etc. Seriously, you really appreciate it towards the end and I know it is not a right so tell your dh/dp's to keep doing it!

Moorhen- sorry bout ur nasty experience are u okay??

passenger sounds like a total pottymouthedfreak yep - some horrid horrid people out there

recently on northern line i stood up to give a heavily pregnant lady a seat before she could sit this city type jumped and sat in the vacant seat when i pointed out it was for the pregnant lady he shouted and told us both to feck off shouting he pays his fare blahblah

on the other hand most tube passengers are usually ok

what shocking behaviour.
I wish I had the ability to vomit on demand - I'd have 'accidentally' puked up all over that awful man.

Sorry to hear about your bad experience with that mentalist old bitter witch.

Reminds me of a time when some complete w*nker was so rude to me on the tube.

I got on the tube and it was the kind of tube that has those two seats together and then an arm rest, then another two seats, then another arm rest etc.

Anyway, this bloke was sitting in one of these seats and i went to sit down next to him. He was sitting there with his legs wide open and as i approached he didn't move his legs to let me sit down. So i looked at him and he said "Sorry, i dont want to get squashed". He refused to let me sit down simply because i am fat (not 40 stone fat, i hasten to add, but a size 22-24).

There was this workman type bloke standing up who saw this who looked at me and shook his head in disbelief at this snotty faced twat and the only thing i could think of to say was "well perhaps he thinks his cock is that big that he needs to keep his legs open that wide". i really couldn't think of anything apt to say lol. I should have just said "move your legs or i WILL squash you!".

I was absolutely mortified and gave him daggers for the rest of my journey while he let some skinny bimbo sit down next to him.

I managed to hold my tattered pride together until i got to work and then proceeded to burst into tears in the toilets!!

Some people are such C!!!

RGPargy, you poor thing, I know just how you feel, I'm normally a 24-26 (since being pg size "blimp" lol) and I've had many shitty remarks over the years.

The worst was last year when I lived in Newport, South wales- horrible place, some really vile people- and I was standing on one of the bridges overlooking the river with cars going past. I saw a bird in the water grabbing something, leaned over slightly to see what it was getting, and some bloke in a car going past shouted "Go on, jump!"

I ignored him and thought "what a tosser" then another car went past with someone screaming "Fking jump you fat ct, go on!" so I got a bit upset and started to walk home. Coming off the bridge with tears rolling down my face, a gang of blokes rounded the corner, early twenties, and all started pissing themselves laughing at me and screaming that I was an ugly fat bitch until I was out of sight.

So you have to wonder what goes on in some peoples heads, really.

Understandably, I don't expect anyone to offer me a seat or open a door for me, ever. Just doesn't happen. And now I'm 7 months pg I just look extra fat, so it's even less likely to happen!

awwww bananabump you poor poor thing!!

i cant believe all that happened to you in such a short time, or even at all for that matter!! no wonder you dont live in newport any more. What a complete bunch of tossers!

Big hugs to you - seems like we know how each other feel about shit like that.

Chin up tho, eh?!

HUGS

heh, cheers. I haven't had that much stick since moving, I think Newport is particularly bad for chav types who can't keep their opinions to themselves. (Obviously not saying everyone from that area is a chav or a bad person, I'm not daft!)

But yeah, some right idiots about. Make you feel like carrying a tazer!