30 weeks with 6th child. He left for another woman

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I am just really struggling to cope. My partner of 15 years has left me for another woman. I haven’t stopped crying and shaking and have resorted to pleading him to come back. He comes by to see the kids but just spends the whole time on his iPhone. He keeps lying that he is not going to see her and says he is sorry and needs his space, but he runs straight to her. He says they are in love and are trying baby.

I feel suicidal because I want the pain and sense of betrayal to stop. He has never. Even faithful so I don’t know why I am begging him to come back.
I know the advice is to get out and do things and love yourself, but I am struggling to get past each minute and cannot bear leaving the house.

Why is he prepared to be faithful to her?
How can he leave his family?
Why can’t I get over the shock?
Why do I still want him back?
Is my constant crying detrimental to the baby?
Someone pls help me.
Thanks

Hello,

didn't want to read and run, I can't answer your questions, but just want you to know how sorry I am you are going through this, and thats its completely not your fault!!

He is a complete arsehole to leave you in this position, please be kind to yourself and let yourself be upset, I've never heard of constant crying being detrimental to an unborn child, but please try and stay strong for your other children.

Is there anyone that can come and help support you, a family member or friend??

What a shit x

Put it this way if he has done this to you whilst you are 30 weeks pregnant, there’s no guarantee that he won’t do the same to the next woman as his morale compass appear to be missing. Do you have any real life support? I understand it hurts a lot right now but with time everything will work out okay for you and your children. You cannot and shouldn’t allow him back into your life because he deserves nothing but contempt from you

He probably won't be faithful to her

I literally don't know. Mine did it too. Men must fucking detach from everything

It hasn't been long and you're hormonal so you will be in shock

The baby will be fine x

God I’m so sorry.

Does she know? Because imagine the piece of shit you have to be to want to be impregnated by a man who left his pregnant Mrs. She sounds almost as fucked up as he does.

He won’t be faithful to her! No way.

You are not hurting your baby by crying.

As soon as you realise what a worthless cunt he is, this will be easier. NO DECENT WOMAN would want this piece of shit, you’re just bound to him by blood therefore it’s different for you now... but you on the other hand, you’re a mother and your best days are ahead of you. He’s a dad that left his family to try impregnate another woman.

Instead of seeing this as you are, try to realise how much you have to offer the world and your kids - your kids are going to love you, you’ll have a family surrounding you and will very likely meet somebody to fit your new found standards in the future once you decide you’re ready (and I suggest you wait until you grow your confidence back after your ex will have clearly smothered it).

You’re better than this situation, okay? Way better. Your ex is laughable, and god help the woman he’s with as she clearly has no self respect.

I’m so sorry. Can you access real life support? Family and friends? Your baby will be fine but do talk to your gp or midwife if you are struggling and if you need help

Well according to him she knows (I asked him) and he said she does know about my family but is love with him and wants children. Today I’ve been vomiting and have a horrible pit feeling in my stomach. Tonight will be another sleepless night of crying.
I don’t know how much longer I can deal with the grief.
Thank you all for your kind words. I’m just not seeing the light at the end of the tunnel at this moment in time.