Confused after booking appointment...

[CalliopeJones]

Had my booking appointment this morning. Met my midwife who was lovely. I spoke to her about my risk of miscarriage (I'm 10 weeks tomorrow) and she said because I am low risk that I can forget about miscarriage as it's almost definitely not going to happen...

Is this a bit of a risky thing for midwife to say?

I think it's fair. Risk of mc drops week by week so by 10 weeks even someone who's 40 (like me!) only has a risk of about 4% if I recall correctly. If you are younger (which I assume you are, being low risk) then your risk is probably way down. That said, it is a natural thing to worry about, but try not to let it dominate your thoughts. The majority of people have a perfectly normal pregnancy with no complications :)

I'm 27 but have had miscarriages previously so don't want to get my hopes up. These were at around 6 weeks however. Just thought it was a strange thing for her to say as I know that the risk doesn't drop dramatically until 12 weeks (that was my understanding anyway!). Thanks though @TinyTerror1 I think I'm just finding it hard to relax!

I found this really helpful and comforting in the early days...

Thanks @430West - I have seen sites like this before however wasn't sure how accurate they were as they don't account for age/previous miscarriage/genetics/father's genes etc so tried to avoid! But the 2% for me is looking pretty positive

Bizarre thing to tell someone. I miscarried at 12 weeks. What about missed m/c? Why would anyone be low risk for miscarriage? It can happen to anyone. It really is just chance. You probably won’t relax until you have your scan. You don’t have long to wait and it’s far more likely to be fine than not.

@Grandmaswagsbag sorry I should've mentioned that I had a scan a couple of days ago due to bleeding an baby is absolutely fine, so this is a good sign of course. Sorry, that was a silly thing not to mention!

Congratulations!

It's my understanding that the risk drops gradually, not a sudden drop at 12 weeks. Most people wait till after the scan in case any other abnormalities are picked up. It's a bit daft to suggest it's not going to happen, but she was just trying to reassure you that the chances are very low. Stress isn't good for the baby either!

If you have seen a scan with a healthy baby and a heartbeat, you're probably less likely to have a miscarriage than if you hadn't.
Of course the midwife doesn't know anything for definite so she probably shouldn't have said that, but everything so far is good and there's nothing too suggest this one will end in miscarriage.

Thanks @Celticlassie - trying my very best not to stress!

@Addictedtohavingbabies thank you. I thought it was just a bit of a strange thing for her to say so nonchalantly! I read on here all the time of people having miscarriages at 11+ weeks. I know it's not common or the norm but it can happen.

Ah. Yes if you’ve seen a heartbeat then the risk drops dramatically. Congratulations.

Thanks @Grandmaswagsbag - I guess once you've been through miscarriage that fear never quite disappears... fingers and toes crossed!

It wouldn’t have been the wisest thing to say had you not had the scan but considering that then yes, your risk of miscarriage is very slim. I had two missed miscarriages last year, I only found out at 11 and 12 weeks so it would be extremely unprofessional of a midwife to reassure me all was fine at this stage (am currently 10 weeks) before I had a scan. Having said that, chances are very slim you will miscarry after seeing the heartbeat at 10 weeks.

@Pinkvoid sorry you had to go through that. It's really heart wrenching isn't it Keeping my fingers and toes crossed that everything will be fine. Don't know what I would say to her if I did have a miscarriage now...