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If you know someone whose DC has the name you want to choose for your baby...?

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camerashy · 11/05/2007 22:07

Did you ask their permission etc. that you could use it too? An ex-colleague of mine named their 5 year old DD a name that I want to use for my baby due in July. I left my job 3 years ago and now see the ex-colleague once a year or so, I wouldn't call her a friend anymore just because we haven't kept in touch well iykwim. When we do see each other it is through other colleagues arranging things etc.

So, should I ask her approval etc. or just avoid the name? How close do you have to be to somebody to have to do this?!!

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twentypence · 11/05/2007 22:08

I'd just do it - she doesn't own the name.

Bubble99 · 11/05/2007 22:09

No!

A name is a name. And I'm sure they weren't the first person to choose it?

Unless, of course, it's something like 'Moon Unit Zappa.'

HenriettaHippo · 11/05/2007 22:12

That's mad! Use the name. I'd only worry about it if it was my brother's child, or close relative, so that there weren't cousins with the same name. I have friends who have used the same names for their babies. Not an issue. She'll be flattered you like it too.

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camerashy · 11/05/2007 22:13

I think the name is about the 75th-85th most popular name on last years list.

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shonaspurtle · 11/05/2007 22:13

I would just use it. Wouldn't think twice.

Bubble99 · 11/05/2007 22:14

So use it! You know it makes sense.

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camerashy · 11/05/2007 22:14

Well, someone did it with my DS' name. I see her and family about twice a year but she did ask my permission! Personally, I didn't think she needed to ask permission and I was flattered.

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Chandra · 11/05/2007 22:15

Of course you can use it! I would not if she had taken the time researching about a unique name for her unique baby, a name I never heard before, but other than that... not.

LazyLine · 11/05/2007 22:16

Ask permission?

Would you ask if you wanted to get the same car as someone you knew? Or move to the same area?

It's just a name.

Unless you are copying first, middle and last names in a stalker type fashion

northender · 11/05/2007 22:17

we ruled out our first choice girls name as some very close friends already had a dd with that name. tbh ex colleague doesn't sound like a problem to me.

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camerashy · 11/05/2007 22:21

One of my best friends had a DD a few weeks back and used another name in my top 3- was gutted but using that is a DEFINITE no no!

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tombley · 11/05/2007 22:27

Ex - Colleague used the same name I gave DS. It's not a popular name so I was thrilled when she turned up with him and introduced him. I would be a bit annoyed if a close friend whom I saw regularly did choose the same name but I know it would be unreasonably so.

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camerashy · 11/05/2007 22:28

Thanks, am feeling better about this

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Ladymuck · 11/05/2007 22:38

I've been in the position where a local friend, who we see most weeks if only in passing, chose the same name for her ds1 that we had given to our ds2, born 5 months earlier. I have to say that it has caused some difficulties and I probably don't make as much of an effort to get together because I do find it odd having the 2 boys together with the same name. I still don't know how I feel about really. I think that it matters less with a larger age gap as the kids are less likely to be together all the time. In my case my son will be a year ahead in school - I would have been more miffed had they been in the same class.

Don't get me wrong - I know that I have no copyright over the name, but it did feel as if my friend wasn't even acknowledging that ds2 existed, or that he would be someone that would be involved in their ds's life. I think your circs are rather different.

jabuti · 11/05/2007 22:39

in the large scheme of things... its just a name! it doesnt have copyrights on it... use it [] and, in my opinion, no need to ask for permission.

my mom's friend got my name for her child. at the time my mom kind of didnt like it... but later on she didnt care at all. and i liked having the same name of that girl who was my friend during childhood. i felt part of a fellowship!

FiveFingeredFiend · 11/05/2007 22:40

i dispair.

just do it.

it could be your dead grandparents name for all she knows.

it could be a family tradition for all she knows.

anyway camerashy, i told you chantelle is taken

Ladymuck · 11/05/2007 22:40

I think for me it was the age difference that did it. I would have no problem at this point beciase ds2 has such a definite personality, so when I hear his name it means so much more than just a name. At 5 months or so though I don't think that his personality had come through in the way that I knew it would eventually.

jabuti · 11/05/2007 22:41

oh, i posted at the same time of ladymuck, i swear i hadnt read your post RE: copyright.

maybe she just really liked the name ladymuch, instead of not aknowledging it?

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camerashy · 11/05/2007 23:02

LOL FiveFF! How did you know it was Chantelle?!

Ladymuck- I would never have had the gall to copy someone I saw most weeks! This is as far as I would go!

When I said about asking permission, maybe I meant more on the lines of acknowledging things with ex-colleague, not that I see her! Also, cringe a bit when I think about the news reaching my ex-workplace 'Camerashy has had a DD named copycat' etc. Expect it would soon be old news though!

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