Lost 1 baby today.

[LubyLoo222]

Been having spotting for a few days now and today passed what looked like a mucus plug but at 8 weeks. This was coupled with strong cramps. So ive had an early scan and turns out i was carrying twins but i now only have 1 baby. I obviously feel over the moon that I still have 1 baby with a heart beating away nicely, but I also feel so heartbroken that I have lost 1. Along with this is an overwhelming fear of losing the 2nd baby. I have another scan in a week to check the growth of the baby and that the sac of the other twin is shrinking. But with the strong cramps and continued spotting I just feel so down that a) I dont know if this is me losing the 2nd baby or still the 1st and b) if i am losing the 2nd baby that nothing can be done about it. 😥 anyone else experienced similar?

I haven't experienced similar but just wanted to say sorry for your loss, and I hope you continue and have a lovely healthy baby x

It's awful isn't it. Fingers crossed baby 2 hangs on in there.

I recently had a miscarriage, it's so sad. I only had one baby though, do not quite the same.

I'm sorry for what has happened to you.

Yes, I have experienced similar, though not entirely the same thing. In my last pregnancy, at 9 and a bit weeks, I started bleeding and lost an undeveloped egg sac (blighted ovum). The other foetus hung on and is now a strapping 15 year old. But I well remember the bleeding and the weeks of uncertainty and higher risks. I think the initial bleeding stopped quite soon, but I was forewarned there would be a clear out later on and I was glad I was warned because it was horrendous when it came out, about a week or 2 later. Masses and masses of brown sludge. Sorry to be so graphic but it is better to know what could be coming. And also, to know that even so much matter passing doesn't mean the other baby is in danger.

You are in for a nervous time, it can't be helped, but I sincerely hope you have the best outcome possible.

Thanks all. @wellthisisunexpected i hope you are ok. Really crap feeling and such a shock.
@dumbledoresgirl thanks for the tip. I cant bear the thought of that but the heads up is great as I definitely would have panicked. I just keep thinking that in a week the empty sac will be full and it was all just a mistake like baby in awkward position or something. But I know thats stupid to think.

I'm so sorry for your loss. The same thing happened to me. There were two heartbeats found at just over 5 weeks. Then I miscarried one of the twins at at week 7.

I was consumed with sadness and convinced the other twin would die too. It didn't though and here I am, nearly 15 weeks pregnant still. Stay strong and positive for your baby. xxx

I had a dissappearing twin and my DS was still perfectly healthy and full term. Hope you're OK OP and fingers crossed for you

Hi,

I experienced something very similar, at 8 weeks found out there were 2 sacs and 2 babies but only 1 heartbeat, I never actually passed the 2nd twin, my body just re-absorbed it (vanishing twin syndrome)

My emotions were all over the place, I felt like I’d lost a baby but I felt guilty for having those sad feelings when I still had a healthy baby growing inside me and like you mentioned I felt so anxious for the remaining baby. The rest of my pregnancy has gone really well and I’m due next week. I do still get a little sad when I see twins, thinking about what could have been but focusing on my healthy baby really helped me and eventually my feelings of sadness were replaced with excitement over what I had to look forward to. Hope you feel better soon x

I only discovered I had twins until one had already gone. I never passed it, it was reabsorbed they think. Stay positive but call your midwife if you have any concerns, no matter how small.

Hey Lubyloo!I feel really sad for your loss.You have all my condolences.I hope that you are fine now.The same happened to my sister when she was 7 weeks pregnant.She was about to have twins but one of her babies died.She felt really sad and started worrying about her other baby.But she didn't lose hope and started to take care of her health.Now she has her baby beautiful and healhy.So don't lose hope.Everything will be fine.All my best wishes to you. :*

I feel absolutely crap today. Losing so much blood and its fresh and red. Phoned EPU and they just said its still baby 2 coming away but I am absolutely convinced baby 1 is now coming away. Just feels different. Feel really crampy and horrid. I am so doubtful that I will see a heartbeat at the next scan. 💔 going to continue looking after myself and acting like i am pregnant taking the vitamins etc just incase i get a pleasent surprise. But feeling really downhearted today.
Ps I changed my name after the post to venus417 so if that came up in thread it was me responding.

Oh dear, what a horrid time this is for you. Don't try to second guess what is happening, though I know that is hard. Just rest and take care of yourself. When is your scan next week?

Paid for a private scan today as bleeding had stopped. All is good. Empty sac is almost gone now and baby has grown the correct amount and heart beating away. She turned the sound on so I heard it as well 😍 feel much more positive now. 8 weeks 3 days down, 31 weeks 4 days to go 💪🏻

THats great news OP! Take care of yourself 💛

Please do keep us updated op, that is good news x

I had a few early scans (5, 7 & 9 weeks) in which I found out I was expecting twins. All was well even at 9 weeks.
Went for 12 week scan and twin 1 had sadly passed without my knowing.
Twin 2 is currently standing in front of me at almost 3 years old