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Dumped at 11 weeks pregnant!

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NTB38 · 11/04/2018 13:57

Hi, i am new to this site. I am hoping for some advice please.
I have a DS aged 15. I never thought i'd have anymore children and my now ex and i had talked about never having any.
I found out i was pregnant and it was a HUGE shock! At the beginning i thought i would not carry on with the pregnancy. I went for a consultation where i cried the whole time, i went to the appointment and cried the whole time and walked out of the theatre room. My now ex partner was not overly supportive but he tried. I have obviously changed my mind and spent weeks tearing myself apart to get to this point... i want this baby!
I always told my now ex that i wasn't sure and how hard i was finding this. I really want this baby and told him that i could not end the pregnancy. After a day of him not talking to me i spoke to him. He has said i am ruining 4 peoples lives, i'm too squeamish to have an abortion and our relationship is over! I can't believe this Sad
Any advice please?

OP posts:
Pinkvoid · 11/04/2018 14:06

He is not acting like a man, rather a child. You are not ruining anyone’s life at all. I am sure you are a loving parent to your 15 year old and that he will adore his sibling. I am also sure that you will love and dote on this child. You are not ruining his life by choosing to have his child either. If he genuinely thought a baby would ‘ruin his life’ he shouldn’t have had unprotected sex with you yet he did and here you are.

Leave him to it, let him mope and whinge all he wants. It is YOUR body and you were well within your rights to back out of the termination. He has no right to tell you that you are wrong for doing what you want to do with your own body. If he genuinely wants nothing to do with it then so be it, you will cope. I have a sneaking suspicion he will change his mind though, ‘men’ have a habit of doing that. Don’t give him the time of day though, you don’t need the stress and hassle. Focus on your DS and keeping yourself healthy for your baby Flowers.

Original poster
NTB38 · 11/04/2018 14:11

Thank you!

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Heregoeseverything · 11/04/2018 14:13

Everything @Pinkvoid said! Flowers

mintich · 11/04/2018 14:15

This has just happened to my friend! She was devastated by his reaction. But she picked herself up and of course, he tried to come crawling back when she was 7 months pregnant. She told home to take a running jump! He now sees the baby but ruined everything with her

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