Feel like hubby doesnt find me attractive anymore

[yumeymummy]

I know being pregnant doesnt always bring out the most attractive things but i just feel lately that dh really doesnt wanna be near me.
He was never like this with my last pregnancy, and up till about a mth ago we still managed intimacy pretty easily! Im 7 mths gone now so obviously getting difficult!

But anyhow, we can still be close surely? He always used to kiss me b4 he went to work and when he got home, thats stopped, he hardly talks to me and just shows no interest in me,the pregnancy or anything really.
Maybe im just being over sensitive, but hes normally very cuddly and touchy feely with me and it just seems like theres nothing on his part at the moment (

Sorry meant a face there not a

sorry to hear you are having troubles, yumeymummy

Have you tried talking to him about it and telling him how you feel? Maybe he is worried about the effect another baby will have on your lives right now?

Try talking to him. hope you sort things out soon tho. hugs

Perhaps it's that now the bump is so obvious he sees you more as a mother than as a sex object now? He may have developed a new respect for your pregnant body and it's getting in the way of his sexual feelings.

But you seem more concerned about the lack of cuddles etc...Perhaps he doesn't even realise he hasn't been as affectionate as usual towards you. After all we are more sensitive and hormonal in pregnancy. I don't feel like my dp talks enough about the baby or the pregnancy but tbh he's just probably so sick of hearing about it.

At 7 months you're probably getting excited and it's probably dominating your thoughts. Unfortunately they don't have constant kicks and a huge belly to remind them of the baby's imminent arrival, and I suppose it can get a bit boring for them to hear about all the time (at least, that's what I'm telling myself)

Just tell him how you feel, that you're feeling a bit vulnerable and unattractive, and you could do with a bit of reassurance. He probably won't guess why you're upset unless you spell it out, if he's anything like mine!

Hey, here's a site which might give you a little reassurance about your body during and post pregnancy. These women are brave, I'd post pics myself but I wouldn't want to be responsible for anyone losing their lunch

\link{http://theshapeofamother.com\The Shape of a Mother.com

Hope this helps

D'oh! let's try that link again: theshapeofamother.com

It really sounds like you need to voice your feelings to him. From anecdotal and personal experience men do go through a kind of 'oh sh*t - it's really happening' thing towards the end of the pregnancy. They can also subconciously worry about harming the baby through sex... talk to him, find out how he feels - maybe you've been concentrating on the baby and he feels left out?

Oh yeah that's true. My blokey did mention once he was scared of poking baby in the eye. LOL

Bless you, I could have written almost the same post a week ago (in fact I did!). I asked DH outright if he had gone off me and no matter how nicely he tried to put it, I was heartbroken to hear that in a way, he had!!!!

Communication is the key - try to talk with him and let him know how you're feeling. You may find that he will open up to you and tell you why he has been behaving differently and it could just be fear more than anything else. Maybe then, you could both discuss a common ground...?

The ironic thing is that I had almost been looking forward to DH looking at me in a motherly/protective way but hadn't anticipated how I would feel about the fact that intimacy/sex would go flying out the window!!! (especially considering this pg is making me rampant!!). I too just want to be cuddled and have him be affectionate towards me. My hormones don't help either!

Hope you manage to talk and that you feel better soon xoxoxo