Pregnant after Morning After Pill!

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I have 3 children aged between 6 & 3. Recently had a slip up with contraception so took morning after pill within 12 hours and I am now pregnant. My husband is 100% that he doesn’t want baby number 4 and if I follow my head I am too. Things have just got easier and I am back at work. We are also supposed to be moving overseas the week I am now due to have a baby. One minute I’m so certain that I don’t want to go back to the baby stage as I already feel I just about have enough time and attention for my children as it is. But in my heart I’m struggling with the thought of terminating the pregnancy! Completely and utterly torn. Just needed to vent as I haven’t told anyone except my husband.

Hello, just wanted to reply as I'd noticed no one has yet and don't want you feeling alone.

Although my situation is probably not similar to yours as this is my first pregnancy. But I also fell pregnant on contraception (the coil). It was a shock as a baby is the last thing on your mind, obviously, you'd taken measures to prevent it in the first place!

I think only you can decide what is best for you. You already have 3 children so you know what it's like to have a small brood. If it isn't the right time, it just isn't the right time. If your gut feeling is that you both do not want more then go with your gut. It's early on still. In my situation I told my partner immediately to gage the reaction and we both sat on it for at least a week. We both contemplated the two different scenarios of keeping it or terminating and thought about our immediate reactions/feelings towards those circumstances.
We both initially freaked out as we are no way ready for babies. But we are at the right age. We then thought would it be more of a relief to terminate or would it bring more sadness and regret. We both came to the decision that we'd be sadder to terminate than we would be relieved.
In your situation however it isn't your first child, so it's very different as you already have your family unit. I'd recommend talking to your partner and seeing his initial reaction. It may be different to what you're building it up to be. Then sit on it and see how you feel after a week. If you're still wobbly and feel it's not right. Then you know what to do. I really hope some of this helps.. I'm sorry if it doesn't. I apologise for how long it is haha.

All the best xx

Sorry I totally just realised you'd told your husband already. I misread.

Hi I had an unplanned 4th pregnancy all I’d say is sit on it a week or two and let the shock wear off I booked in for termination but once horror wore off I decided to go ahead with pregnancy despite my reservations , I could have easily decided the other way but my point is it will become clear what you want to do .