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Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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What's wrong with me?

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surreygirl1987 · 09/04/2018 11:18

I'm 15 weeks pregnant. I was desperate to conceive and it took a good few months. I cried every month when it didn't work. When I finally got pregnant I was absolutely over the moon and terrified about losing it. We had the 12 week scan and I was so so happy. But in the past few days I've become increasingly miserable about it and today I woke up just wishing I wasn't pregnant and really regretting it. I just cried for the first time in months and for absolutely no reason. I didn't even get upset a few weeks ago when I was being sick. I should be feeling good in the second trimester shouldn't I, and I had heard hormones settled by now (and I haven't been hormonal at all anyway!)... so why do I feel like this?? Is it normal/ hormones or have I made a huge mistake?? My husband is lovely but it was me who cared more about starting a family and I'm worried if I tell him how I feel he might feel the same :(

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LivLemler · 09/04/2018 11:25

Don't be too hard on yourself, I think it's perfectly normal to have wobbles. I'm being induced tomorrow with a much wanted baby and I'm still not sure if I want to do this whole motherhood malarkey!

If the thoughts persist or are causing you anxiety, speak to your midwife but if it's just a wobble, just be kind to yourself and wait for it to pass.

ClareB83 · 09/04/2018 11:34

Haha love the idea of hormones 'settling' during pregnancy! I'm 32 weeks and cried yesterday as it turns out the radio DH bought DOES work. 🙄

Also, it's fine to have wobbles. I very much want these babies but at 9 weeks I suddenly panicked that me and DH wouldn't fit in anymore long haul holidays before the babies came. And yesterday I felt really sad that we only have four more weekends left just the two of us.

It's a big change, you're allowed to have more than one feeling about it!

Bluebirdsky · 09/04/2018 16:20

Hormones definitely don't settle I am afraid! I haven't been overly hormonal either but definitely have my moments. Last week (at 27 weeks) I cried because DH had to get out and help me park the car!!
All sounds quite normal to me, don't be too hard on yourself. But if it doesn't pass then have a chat with your midwife.

itallhappensforareason · 09/04/2018 16:23

Like the other ladies, I was going to say your hormones probably aren't going to settle throughout the pregnancy! I would put your feelings down to hormones to be honest and just normal worry every parent to be has about having a baby. I've experienced a lot more lows than highs during my pregnancy (I'm 18+4) and am scared sh*tless about the whole thing. It's normal!!!

AyeAyeFishyPie · 09/04/2018 18:41

Another vote for normal here. We wanted a baby, got pregnant first time, it's taken me until now (19 weeks) to not freak out at the sight of Mothercare. Be kind to yourself x

shortcutcity · 09/04/2018 18:44

Completely normal, don't worry! You will be feeling so happy again, soon!

Fannyfanakerpants · 09/04/2018 18:55

At about 12 weeks, I got to the point where if someone gave me a button to undo it all, and no one would ever have known I was pregnant, I'd have done it in a second.
I also remember a couple fawning over there new baby on the maternity ward and my husbands looked at me and said 'I don't feel like that.' I was so relieved because I didn't either. Said baby is now 6 and I'd never be without him and I'm pregnant with dc3. It is completely Normal. Your whole life is changing.

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surreygirl1987 · 09/04/2018 21:52

Oh thank you all so much. I'm a mess today and I'm NEVER a mess so your words mean a great deal! Actually your replies made me cry (of course)!. I think I just need a good night's sleep and hopefully will be feeling more myself tomorrow. So relieved to hear I'm not a freak :)

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LMX0 · 09/04/2018 22:13

Hormones settle?? It must have been a man came out with that one as its 💩 i had a fit last week (23 weeks) before my house wasnt as clean as I wanted it so gurned and then a bag kept falling off the stairs so i threw a fit you'd expect from a toddler then cried because i told my dh and he was nice to me!!! So hormones settle? I dont think so!!

itallhappensforareason · 10/04/2018 15:44

Glad to hear you are feeling better about it all. Remember you will have good days and bad days and it's completely normal!

LeighaJ · 10/04/2018 19:39

Most of pregnancy itself blows no matter how badly you want the baby. It gets better sometimes then much worse I'm afraid at the end.

Unless ofc you enjoy needing to go to the bathroom again as soon as you've sat down from just having gone. I don't personally enjoy it but different strokes for different folks.

Dandybelle · 10/04/2018 19:47

I'm only 8 weeks but I do this every couple of days. I think it's normal, hormones make you crazy

pastabest · 10/04/2018 19:51

Gosh I think I had a wobble in both pregnancies at around 15 weeks. I think it's a combination of the nausea starting to wear off, the adrenaline of building up to scans is over and you start feeling the very early signs of your body starting to change. Then BAM it hits you that you are actually going to have to give birth at some point and your entire life is about to change.

All that before you even factor in the hormones completely fucking with you and it's no wonder things suddenly seem huge and scary.

The feeling does pass though and no matter how hard your pregnancy and birth ends up being you won't regret the end product when it arrives.

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