Broody!!

[user122]

Hi everyone,

I'm 21 and my partner is 24, we have been together for coming up to 6 years now and living together (renting) for 3. Financially stable and both in secure jobs. We are looking to buy our first home at the end of the year. We are very happy and stable, but I have been stupidly broody since I knew what babies were, I truly believe I was born to be a Mum!!! My partner is sensibly suggesting we wait until we are settled in our own home before we start TTC, but I am now becoming painfully broody which I think is starting to annoy him slightly, I bring up wanting a baby at least once a day...

I totally agree it's sensible to wait, but has anyone got any advice to suppress my broodiness for another year or so? Don't want to freak the poor man out.

You could spend a day with my 5-month-old. Her favourite activities include whinging for no reason and not sleeping. Guarantee that'll put you off!

WasThatPlaceTHESUN haha, between us we have 6 nieces/nephews between the ages of 1-10! We very often babysit over night (including the young ones that have had us up all night) and it genuinely makes me 10x more broody!

Oh my god are you me?!!

This is exactly the position me and my husband were in a few months ago!

We were the same ages as you and your partner a year ago- the only thing I want in life is to be a mom, I feel like it's my sole purpose 😂😂 tbh, I'm not giving advice because you know your position better than anyone but here's what happened with us -
So I really irritated my husband at first because he was adamant we needed our own place first... I was so broody that I didn't care (we were living with in laws)

I was so broody I'd cry all day because I wasn't pregnant (I'm surprised he stuck with me, I sound crazy) but I couldn't help how badly I wanted children. Anyway, he agreed and we TTC... I made a post back in September I think? A few months later... it wasn't happening. I'm a firm believer in everything happening for a reason - had I had gotten pregnant we would've been screwed. I lost my job and we found the house of our dreams....

Cue a few months later and we've just moved into our first home, mortgage worked out nicely, I have a job with a career I love, and if I hold off a few months I'll have a really great maternity package!

As much as I am impatiently dying to have Kids, now I'm in a way better position and it's sort of a blessing it didn't happen 😊

Cupcakesandglitter I love this!!! So happy for you in your new job & home! Literally got everything crossed that things will work out for you & your husband soon and you become parents!

I literally feel the exact same about sole purpose in life. It's actually all I think about!😬

Thankyou! I think it's going to be a massive struggle since I came off contraception last year my periods are all over the place.... the good thing is though I mentioned to my doctor in sept we were TTC.. so if it hasn't happened in sept then I can go back and tell them.

Anyway - I'm so glad you feel the same 😂 honestly the amount of forums and stuff I read to see if I was normal was a joke. It's actually how I came across Mumsnet! My hips got wider and boobs got bigger too which was weird! It's like my body will not be happy until it has a baby, and honestly, I don't think I will be either! In that time my SIL has had a gorgeous little boy and I cried so much! I'm so happy for her but I want that more than anything 😩 currently bingewatching one born every minute and crying when mums hold their baby's for the first time 😂 I feel like such a sap!

It is difficult (sorry for the essays it's just relieving to find someone that knows how I'm feeling 😂) but honestly if you just think of how amazing your life will be once you own a home... then nothing can make you delay having a baby and your partner will be on board!! Since we've moved in we're the happiest we've ever been, and now DH can not wait to have Kids! It's like he's a different person!

Oh no - I was on the pill for 8 years and have now been off for 2 months (health reasons) and have only had one very small period! (We are now using condoms). Do you have any of them period/fertility tracker apps? I have 'Flo' and it's been really helpful. I've also read taking vitamin supplements can help your periods return to normal after long time on hormonal contraception.

I am literally not exaggerating when I say but up until 3am the other night watching 4 episodes of One Born 😂😩. Such a relief to hear I am not the only one!!!

We are literally saving every penny we have to get our house ASAP... we already have our mortgage in principle etc. Just need to get a deposit for a decent 2 bed (obviously I have designed a fucking nursery already😂😂😂)

😂😂 nope, it's not just you! I literally lay in bed watching it until the early hours 😂

I've tried everything, folic acid, vitamin tablets etc, nothing's working for me! I think I'm stressing about it too much? And also I put a lot of weight on when I had the implant so I don't think it's helped! Yes I use Flo! It's brilliant, but because of my dodgy periods it doesn't predict them right 😂😂

Omg! My Pinterest is saved with all the baby's room inspiration, and I've already taken DH to ikea to show him what I want 😂😂

I'm very broody too but for no2. I don't want to start RTF straight away, maybe towards the end of the year but my DH has said he is unsure and needs persuading. This has made me want it even more and it's all I think about! I really miss being pregnant and my DS is so amazing that I just think a 2nd would be wonderful and complete.
Not sure what I'll do if DH says no :-(

Cupcakesandglitter I literally think we are the same people 😂

Boodles101 I am very new here - what does RTF mean? Bless you, mission get the other half broody in full action for you!

Sorry I mean TTC (try to conceive) phone must have changed it!! We are going on holiday soon so I'm waiting for my opportunity to discuss it when he's relaxed, had a few drinks and a nice family time away.!

@user122 yes I think so too! Please keep in touch!

@boodles101 I tried this when we went on holiday.... didn't work out to well, started the emotional breakdown on holiday too 😂😂

Hi @user122 - any luck deciding whether youre going to try or wait? Xx

I was the same as you. I have always wanted a baby and it killed me having to wait. My fiance wanted to wait until he was 30 (which he just turned) and I started begging for a baby many years ago. It was such a big deal in 2016 when he agreed we were going to TTC and it started with him saying I could earn points (by giving him a massage and things like that) to earn one try and eventually we were just trying. By the way, when you do start trying you should use the SMEP (Sperm Meets Egg Plan) method- I would recommend it to anyone and everyone who is trying because it works and it takes the stress out of it because you're hitting all the right days. And sorry to mention it because I hated hearing about it from other people =/ , but well we're expecting in September. We had two miscarriages in 2016. I don't know if anything I said helped, but I was so depressed about not being a mother so I truly feel as though I can relate. I hope that you both get the baby you want and deserve really soon. x

I was desperate for a baby.. Always wanted to be a Mum! But my partner always said he wanted to wait (for what I don't know).

And then as I gave up.. We got pregnant unexpectedly 😁😁😁

I'm due in two weeks and sooooooooo excited!

Hope you get your baby soon OP!

I had DD1 in 2014 then had a ectopic in 2016 a few months after I too became very broody ! I found it really hard to "wait for the right time "I just kept discussing it until my partner agreed haha. DD2 is now 14 weeks old