pregnant one month after a misscarriage

[Bobbypin05]

I had a misscarriage last year and then fell pregnant again very soon after which was planned due to work committments i either had to be pregnant soon or not try again for a year or 2. I'm please to say i went on to have a happy healthy little boy who is my whole world. Its only really now tho that its comming up to a year since the misscarriage and i feel a sense of guilt as i wanted that baby soo much but had I not misscarried i wouldnt of had my son. its all rather confusing.
I'm just posting this really to get the feelings out there as its not something I can really talk about in real life. has anyone else been through somethinh similar?

Completely. I had two miscarriages last year and am pleased to now be 39 weeks pregnant with a little boy. I still feel incredibly sad about the loss of my other babies yet have a feeling that it was worth it get my little boy. Those feelings in turn make me feel guilty for almost being thankful those pregnancies didn’t work out. It really is a minefield of emotions and they are all completely normal. It’s natural for you to feel loss and sadness for the babies you never got to meet and a thankfulness for your healthy little boy. Take a little time to remember your lost babies on the anniversary, maybe lighting a candle or something similar? Allow yourself to feel whatever you feel, it’s all normal!

I’m sorry for your loss
I got pg completely unexpectedly 1 week after surgical intervention following a missed Mc. My periods hadn’t returned so I was effectively pg for over a year.
It was mentally very very hard. People seemed to think that being pg again so soon meant I was ok and I couldn’t really grieve properly for my baby.
My dd is 13 and I remember what would have been my lost baby’s birthday a few months before hers and I still get very upset at times.
I had a tree planted for my baby and each year donate money to a local children’s hospice and they light a candle for him
It’s ok to be sad and miss your baby even if you have another one ( I also have a 9 year old) and there is no time limit on your grief

I also got pregnant quickly after a miscarriage (at 10 weeks although pregnancy hadn't progressed past about 6 weeks). The pregnancy and first year with DC was an enotional rollercoaster and I now reaIise I had PND. 4 years on I can still be floored with grief (particularly around the "birthday") but the guilt and angst have definitely passed and I can enjoy my DC. Take care of yourself and allow yourself to grieve and get support if you need it x

Sorry for your loss I had this too, miscarried my first pregnancy and was then pregnant again within 2 months. It's a hard thing to get your head around. Still remember my due date and how old my first baby would have been.