4 weeks pregnant help!

[Dudley1711]

So I’m 4/5 weeks pregnant. Me and my partner have only been together a few months. Yes I really love him, like a lot. Our relationship is undeniably amazing but it’s new. We still have so much to learn about one another etc. When I found out I was pregnant I thought that without a doubt I would have an abortion before it actually happened. But having the test results in my hand and experiencing all the physical changes I don’t feel the same. There is a huge part of me deep down like in my gut that wants to keep this baby. My
Partner does not think it is the right time and we have the rest of our lives which I agree. But there’s just this part of me that wants to keep it. On paper I know this is not the right thing. How would I support it financially emotionally etc but I know for a fact my child would be loved. I’m just really scared and super confused. There’s a lot of circumstances that make it difficult but I don’t know if I’d feel comfortable having an abortion when there’s such a huge part of me that wants to keep it.
I would appreciate any advice. Thank you so much x

Be honest with your partner. It might end the relationship, but if you think an abortion may prey on your mind it's probably not a good idea to have one. Besides, no one is ever in a perfect situation for pregnancy. You'll work it out if you have to.

Thank you. It’s just so hard because I know not everyone will agree with my decision and they are right to have their opinion. It’s jusf this gut feeling I have inside not to have an abortion. But is that really enough?? It’s such a difficult descision.

id advise calling a marie stopes or similar and getting some counselling very soon.

and i would say trust your gut feelings.

Thank you. I never heard of Mary stopes. I’ll look into it now. Thanks for your help
X

or BPAS - or alternatively see your gp to refer you - you dont have to decide just yet. try not to panic and talk it out until you feel better with whichever decision you make. x

Thank you. My partner just thinks I’m being ridiculous I’m even considering it. He thinks it’s completely impossible as our circumstances are not right which is true. He thinks that it’s just as simple as taking a tablet. I just feel differently as it’s my body. I know regardless he would be there for me and there’s people in worse of positions that make it work so it will be difficult but not impossible. I’m just scared. Thank you again x

How did you get pregnant? There's a huge difference in the mindset required for termination if it's a contraception failure than if you didn't take any precautions.

As your relationship is so new you need to completely discount his opinion. You may well be on your own in a years time irrespective of what you do about this pregnancy.