We had the Harmony screening done and came back with a 1/10000 chance of trisomy 21/18/13. I had chosen to take the screening as my sister had a Down’s syndrome pregnancy a few years ago, and I witnessed the personal trauma she went through when she decided that for her, the right decision was to terminate.
With the low result, my mind was put at ease and I didn’t think of chromosomal issues again until my 20-week scan when they picked up two markers for Edwards Syndrome. Whilst many have said that they would and have continued their pregnancies regardless, for me personally, I knew that I couldn’t manage the daily stress of not knowing for certain. I also knew, again for me personally, that the right decision would be to terminate rather than attempting to bring a baby into this world that if born alive, would likely live just a few days or months and experience little more of this world than the inside of a hospital. So we elected to have an amnio test.
The wait for the results was the most agonizing, sleepless weekend of my life. Believe me, this is a very much wanted baby and feeling it kicking inside and knowing there was a chance that it might not survive was a brutal introduction to the (potential) realities of becoming a parent. The thing that kept me sane was knowing that the results of our Harmony test had been so good. If I had not had any good earlier test results, I don’t know how I would have coped.
Thankfully, the early FISH results came back clear, and although we’re waiting for the full amnio results still to come back, the FISH + Harmony results have convinced us and our doctor that it is extremely unlikely that any of the three trisomys are present. The markers they found at the scan don’t seem to indicate another rarer trisomy either. So we’ve been able to relax and stop stressing me (and the baby) out.
For me, taking the NIPT test was the right decision, 100%.
And my heart goes out to those of you that have lost their babies after going through a similar ordeal. Where people find the strength to survive such a loss, I don’t know, but I think you’re amazing.