Down in the Dumps

[LiitleAce]

I just need to vent so sorry if this is longer than anticipated...

So I'm 16+3 and pretty hormonal. Being ill on top of being up the duff the past week hasn't helped.

Today I'm feeling so down. This is my first pregnancy, wasn't planned but I'm over the moon all the same. My other half was not happy at first but decided it was great after a few days of wrapping his head around it... or so I thought.

He's just not bothered at all about it, he's more concerned with his lads hol next month which makes me feel awkward when I get excited over anything baby related and I have to keep it all to myself. I get that this was never on the cards for him and I'm trying to respect that but I'm so happy and I have no one to get excited with.

My poor mum is in shock still and she's trying but I can see that's she's been here several times with my sis etc and just doesn't have the same enthusiasm.

And my friends all get married this month, or go on holiday and just basically have their own lives so I don't want to be that friend who constantly mentions being pregnant and babies so I'm trying to keep quiet there too.

The only person showing any interest is my poor cat.

Any ideas on how to snap myself out of this?

Oh OP. I think those are perfectly valid reasons to feel down! I really do.

I'd really recommend getting over to one of the antenatal groups on mumsnet. They're great for banging on about babies without becoming 'that friend'. Have you looked at any prenatal classes to meet other mums to be? A lot of places offer pregnancy yoga, Pilates, where you could get to know people that may be a bit more supportive and happy to chat about your pregnancy with you and you deserve to get to be excited about this and share the excitement with other people!

As for your family, and even DP, it's hard but you need to accept you have no control over other peoples feelings. If they miss out on your pregnancy, it's their loss.

You do need so chat with your DP though. It may be this isn't quite real for him yet, but hopefully someone will be along soon with better advice!

@IHateToCashew

Thank you, it's good to know I'm being upset for a reasonable reason.

I hadn't thought of the classes, I might give that a go. Any advice right now is much appreciated

I'd really give it a go it's really important, even more so with your family being so disengaged, to have a decent support network. Pregnancy and having a baby is bloody hard!

Also, if I were one of your friends, I'd be devastated that you felt I had too much going on to talk to me about this stuff!

You haven't mentioned your DP's family - are they supportive or interested at all?

@IHateToCashew unfortunately they live abroad and the language barrier is another issue entirely.

I feel a bit better after moaning but I'm definitely going to try reaching out to groups etc

The Peanut app may be worth a go too OP. There are plenty of pregnant ladies on there looking to make friends and have a chat I met quite a few lovely people on there just after I had DS.

@IHateToCashew I've never heard of that, thank you!!

I'd maybe post over in relationships about your DP OP. They're full of great advice over there and there's a lot more traffic