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No sex drive whatsoever in pregnancy, normal?

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CobaltRose · 03/04/2018 21:52

Hi everyone.

I'm 11 weeks pregnant with my first child and my sex drive has taken a nosedive since finding out! My fiancé and I were at it like rabbits before pregnancy, but since finding out I've had no desire whatsoever.

It's not just sex, I balk at ANY kind of touch right now. I even have to force myself to kiss my partner. The last time we had sex was in early February! I was (just) pregnant then but didn't know.

My mood has improved in the last week or so (I was VERY grumpy and snappy in the beginning) as has the nausea and tiredness, but my sex drive is still nowhere to be found. I feel awful for my partner and even feel like I'm neglecting him and his needs, even though he's assured me that he's fine.

Is it normal to not want sex during early pregnancy? It seems like the stereotype is for pregnant women to want it constantly, but right now it's the last thing I want! Will it improve as my pregnancy progresses?

Thanks! Smile

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somersetsoul · 03/04/2018 21:56

I'm 11 weeks and am the same. DP has had to put up with nothing since we found out! I am feeling much better now but can't bear the thought of even kissing him!

It didnt come back with my other 2 pregnancies! He'll have to go without!

HopeAndJoy16 · 03/04/2018 21:59

This was me too! Coupled with the fact that I was so swollen down there that sex was almost impossible. My sex drive is only just beginning to pick up and my DD is 11 months old (although I'm bf still and she is still waking multiple times a night).

Cat12321 · 03/04/2018 22:10

Completely normal. Worsened for me as I'm getting later into my pregnancy too. I'm 33 weeks now and absolutely huge. The last thing that I can think about is doing hanky panky Smile

You're not alone!

Hairgician · 04/04/2018 08:52

Dp and I have tried once this pregnancy. And we sacked that off cos just felt weird. Currently 35weeks and I do not feel sexy or up for it in any way!!
He's making do with hand jobs for now😂 better than a kick in the nuts!

MrsDx · 04/04/2018 10:33

This makes me feel sooooo much better I was getting worried our relationship was doomed as I just have absolutely no interest whatsoever in sex anymore 😂

ForeverHopeful21 · 04/04/2018 13:35

I'm 38 weeks and we've only had sex twice during the whole pregnancy, both times I didn't enjoy it one bit, so we haven't bothered since.
I think this is pretty common so I wouldn't worry too much.

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