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Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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Utterly miserable and feel so ungrateful

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babysteps · 10/05/2007 14:21

Am hiding under a different nickname because I feel so ashamed of myself. I'm nearly eight weeks into a planned and much wanted pregnancy - my first. I know I should just be feeling lucky and happy but I've been feeling nauseous all day every day for the last two weeks; over the weekend I developed a horrible cold which is still lingering and I just feel so tired and miserable. I was off work sick yesterday and just sat and wept. My job has been fantastic in the past but is at the moment just tedious and frustrating. My DP is absolutely wonderful but can apparently do or say nothing right. The worst thing is I've sort of stopped believing in this baby... I think I'm just waiting to start bleeding, I can't believe that I'm really pregnant, or rather I can't believe that I'll stay pregnant. There's no reason for me to think anything is wrong but some twinges in my hips over the weekend had me convinced I was ectopic and since then I can't feel like it's real.

Sorry, I'm not expecting help or advice or anything, just wanted to put this into words and can't talk about it in RL.

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TooTicky · 10/05/2007 14:25

You have so many hormones flying around at the moment you're bound to get upset easily. It's a hard time, especially if you're feeling sick as well. Get as much sleep as you can, snuggle up with your favourite books/music, eat lots of fruit and veg and remember that this stage will pass.
I know it can be hard to believe you're pregnant before you have a bump - I was the same with my first - but things will be different soon.

isaidno · 10/05/2007 14:29

Relax - suddenly everything is changing - even though you planned this change!

Early pregnancy is hard - you're knackered, bloated and sick with no bump or baby to show for it!

I did not believe I was pg until the scan - I kept the pregnancy test and looked at it about 10 times a day to make sure!

numptysmummy · 10/05/2007 14:31

I was like this with each of my 4 pregnancys. Kept wondering if i'd done the right thing,dreaded first scans in case there was nothing there and i'd look a tit. Got past first scan and it all fell in to place and felt o.k. Think it's very common and normal,the shitty bit will soon pass.

littlelapin · 10/05/2007 14:32

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Tigana · 10/05/2007 14:33

Ditto what Tooticky said.

cupcake78 · 10/05/2007 14:59

I agree with everyone. It is your just your hormones. I cried when I wasn't pregnant because I wanted to be, at about 8 weeks, cried because I didn't know if I really wanted it and felt so ill(this is after two m/c's and trying for 4 months).

So putting your feet up with a book sounds like a great idea to me and don't be too hard on yourself it will pass with time, I promise you will feel better soon.

When you see your little one at the scan it is amazing and you will just love it

Babylovesmuffins · 10/05/2007 15:30

Ditto everyone else Babysteps. My hormones were all over the place at the start - I just felt like crying all the time (mind you, I'm now 25 weeks and still very hormonal )

Don't be so hard on yourself - your body is going through so many changes at the moment.

The best thing someone told me when I was tired and nauseous all the time, is that the chances of the pg being ok are actually increased when you suffer from nausea and morning sickness. I did used to expect bleeding every time I went to the loo - I was just so surprised I'd got pregnant and couldn't really believe it would all be ok!!

It is very difficult to keep working when you're pregnant, as I've found out. Again, don't be hard on yourself or expect too much from yourself, just do what you can.

When is your first scan/dating scan? For me, that was when everything started to seem real and I was able to relax a little bit - I actually stopped feeling so nauseous around the same time.

Oh, and buy your DP "The Blokes Guide to Pregnancy"!! It worked for my DH and he has put up with a lot of crap from me TBH

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babysteps · 10/05/2007 15:34

Thank you so so much all of you for making me feel like a normal human being. Obviously now I am going to start crying again, just because you've all been so nice to me. I'm sure I will feel better once I've had the scan - it's not until mid-June by which time I'll be nearly 14 weeks but at least it does give me a date to look forward to!

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RGPargy · 10/05/2007 15:36

awww babysteps, i do sympathise!

Like everyone else has said, it's hormones, that's all.

I'm 11+2 and still get lumps in my throat about silly little things like watching someone hug their kid lol.

Also, my DP has been absolutely fabulous too and when (one particular night i was a bit grumpy) he asked me if i was sure i was ok, i just burst into tears and said "YEEESSSS!!! Everything's fine!! waaaaa!!!!" It's silly now, but sometimes stupid things make me grizzle!

I strongly recommend the following:

1 x Large bar of your very favourite chocolate
1 x Large glass of fizzy pop or hot choc etc
1 x Big duvet on sofa
1 x Your favourite DVD

You could also watch it with your DP, but tell him not to say a word and to just sit there snuggling with you.....

saintmaybe · 10/05/2007 15:46

Oh, babysteps, as everyone else has said, your hormones are likely to be running amok,; everyone understands that an eight-month-pregnant woman is tired and hormonal, but in a way it's actually at the beginning that your body,s doing the most momentous work; you're building a person fgs!

Most people do start to feel better after the first 3 months, be kind to yourself and start practising being helped and looked after.

Do hope you're feeling better soon.

Jbck · 10/05/2007 16:07

I was beginning to feel not very pg about 3 weeks ago as sickness wasn't as bad as first time, boobs not too sore, wasn't peeing every 10 minutes & I hadn't felt weepy at all. Then I saw a piper piping a bride & groom along the road & I just filled up in front of several bemused family members. Thing was it wasn't even real it was a wedding fair/exhibition thing & I knew that but nothing could stop me welling up . It was then that I thought, OMG I am pg. There's nothing you can really do to stop the overwhelming feelings that appear out of the blue, just go with the flow just now, take it easy & don't expect too much from yourself, everyone is usually much harder on themselves than others are.
Hope you feel better soon [smile

PizPizPiz · 10/05/2007 16:07

Hormones.
Cry, stamp your feet, have a go at any living thing. You'll feel better soon.

stircrazymum · 10/05/2007 16:12

I was like this at your stage, everybody said it would be worth it but I felt they didn't understand. I couldn't remember why I had decided to get pregnant! I was convinced I as having an ectopic and then was going to miscarry!
I now have a beautiful little girl who I adore & it was worth it, so much so I am wondering when to have the next one.
Hang on in there.

Bodkin · 10/05/2007 17:15

I second what everyone else has said, and the not believing in the pregnancy... I think it is a coping mechanism in case the worst happens. I have felt like that in both my pregnancies and it really concerned me, but as the pregnancy progresses, you do feel increasingly confident. Good luck and chin-up

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