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Husband of 7 months leaves when we become pregnant.

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Alondon18 · 31/03/2018 23:55

Hello, I'm reaching out because I have been so lost lately. My husband was the all around great guy that everyone loved. He swept me off my feet. He wasn't exactly my type but his presistence drew me in quickly. He was a dreamer and a lover. Always voicing his love and goals with me . I never had that before, so I believed every word off of his tongue. We was only together a little over a year when he asked me to marry him. Of course I said yes and I started planning the wedding of my dreams. It's was perfect although slight setbacks bc my family has it's loose wires just as his did . But we got through it. We were very much in love and we knew as long as we had each other we would be fine . Coming into our relationship I had a 8 year old son and he has a 7 year old son. He was also married for 8 years and divorced not to soon before we started talking . He went through a very nasty divorce to say the least . He was left with nothing . And now I wonder if that's why he was the smooth talking son of a gun he was . Because that's all he had it offer. But none the less I fell for it. He soon in the relationship voiced his opinion on wanting to have a child with me. I was on the fence bc I was a single mother since the day my son was born. Of course that smooth talking guy convinced me. Saying all the right things and showing that he would be a great father. I agreed that I would love to have a child with him. We had troubles conceiving. We thought something may be wrong. It brought some stress on our marriage. We both had blood work done to see if that would give us insight. We starting having our issues as most couples do. But I thought we would always be able to work through anything bc we got each other and we always said we would make it no matter what. Well we had a pretty ugly argument that made him leave me. Only a few short days of him leaving I learned I was pregnant. I had a feeling because I had been so emotional and I didn't handle him leaving well at all. Now that I look back the argument we had was caused bc of my hormones. Even with me telling my husband he has still chose to stay gone and wants a divorce. We have tried to work on it. And it goes great but then he disappears or ignored me once again. For no good reason. I am so lost. When we are good he is great. But when he leaves again he instantly doesn't believe that I'm pregnant. It's almost as if he is living two lives. I believe he loves his new life with his buddies who are both single and have different women over every night . I never thought my husband was that person . But wow he has shown his true colors and I don't know what to do. Please help if you can. This is breaking my heart.
Thanks

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Addy2 · 01/04/2018 06:57

Oh, you poor thing. Flowers He sounds like a total prick. Make sure you get everything off him you can for maintenance. It infuriates me that he talked you into having a baby, then you're the one stuck with it when he changes his mind. Unfortunately, talk is cheap. Smooth talkers are often untrustworthy - in future, look for actions instead of words. I'm sure you'll do a amazing job without him, for now just focus on yourself and your DC.

vintagechampagne1 · 01/04/2018 07:06

Im sorry to here about your situation and don't really know what to say or tell you to do Alondon but I just wanted to give you a hug and let you know what ever you decide to do you are not on your own x

K0013 · 01/04/2018 09:30

Unfortunately I don’t really have any advice I can offer. I just wanted to send you a big hug and tell you to take care of yourself. I hope he stops being a twat and supports you xx

Stacey186 · 01/04/2018 10:36

Hi @alondon18
I have no advice i'm afraid. But i am in a slightly similar situation to you. I'm pregnant and have 2 children from a previous relationship and my Husband is living at his Mom's. Things are pretty shit for me too. If you'd like someone to talk to, although i clearly am shockingly shit at choosing men too, i'll listen. Feel free to PM me.
You don't mention how far along you are? Do YOU want this baby? Can you afford it alone (as that's what you may well be doing)
Maybe do what i did. I made a list of the problems i faced if i went ahead with the pregnancy alone and to see if i could work out a way to go ahead. It might help you to have it all in black and white infront of you.

I found people on this site helped me greatly, especially when i first found out. You may have people in your own life who can offer proper support. If you do, talk to them. I don't have many i can turn to so found the women on here a godsend. I really hope you're ok. Xx

vintagechampagne1 · 05/04/2018 18:29

Hello Alondon, how are things going?

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