When to tell...

[YorkshireBee]

I’m currently 10+2 with our first baby. 12 week scan booked for two weeks’ time and we’ve always said we’ll keep the news to ourselves until then.
The trouble is, all our family lives far away and we’re not able to get to see some of them until I’m 15 weeks. We will be seeing others sooner - fortunately the ones I trust to keep a secret!
However, there are friends, work colleagues etc close by who I would like to tell, not least to explain why I’m knackered, not eating properly and off the booze! Is it weird to tell them before close family? I feel like it would be strange to say “I’m pregnant, but keep it to yourself because my mum doesn’t know yet”! But I also don’t know how I’ll keep it secret from people I see every day for an extra 4 weeks...
What would you do? Anyone else been in a similar position?

FaceTime your Mum. It's nice doing it in person but you have to tell your Mum first!

Oh I'm in that position! Im 14 weeks and my parents don't know yet as I just haven't seen them! But I've had to tell some colleagues and friends obviously. Not ideal for them not to know first but I REALLY wanted to tell them in person and just felt a phone call or Skype would be disappointing! I only have to wait a few more days though :) my parents will understand and just be over the moon.

If i waited to tell mines in person I'd have had to tell them at my sister's wedding. So we opted for a phone call to parents and group chat for siblings since there is too many of them on both sides. I told mines same day as the scan. Call them and drop hints it's fun them trying to figure out what your saying

Thanks for all your ideas.
Unfortunately FaceTime isn’t an option - parents are technophobes! As for dropping hints, my mum has thought everything is a hint that I’m pregnant for about the last five years and has really piled on the pressure, so I’m not sure about that one! Easier to say nothing yet than have her guessing and telling everyone before we’re ready I think. We have some close family friends I want to tell myself and I need to tell her firmly she can’t break the news, otherwise it’ll be round everyone before I get chance (she has form in that area!).
I also think if we’re telling my in-laws in person, it’s only fair we do the same with my parents, even if we have to wait a bit. I guess I’ll just have to keep it quiet a bit longer until we can see them in person.

Just be wary of the why didn't you tell me. I'd have gotten that if we didn't tell them (either side) .
But have fun telling them however you tell them 😃

Oh God yes - I imagine we’ll already be in trouble for waiting until 12 weeks, so telling other people first would be the icing on the cake!

I'm in the same boat - my mum lives a long way away, so I arranged a visit at week 13. Luckily this turned out to be the day after the scan is booked. The nice thing about not seeing her so frequently due the distance is that (hopefully) it'll be a complete surprise!

We don't want to tell anyone before our parents, but it's so hard! If I had to wait an extra 2/3 weeks I'd probably tell those close to me who I thought could keep a secret (and maintain the lie around my mother, if applicable).

You say they're technophobes - is there any friends/relatives that live close to your parents that could hook you up with a skype/facetime chat? That was my backup plan if the scan turned out to be at 11 weeks.

Thanks @Elizastarbeth. I hadn’t thought of that - I could get my brother to visit them and Skype them all at once. We’ll call that plan B if I think I need to tell them before I see them in person!
I definitely won’t tell more than a handful of very close friends who I can trust to stay quiet, if any. Just hope I don’t develop a bump too early!

@YorkshireBee Good luck, glad I could help! It's much better to tell them in person, but if needs must...