I don’t feel pregnant

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Please reassure me!

I have a bump. I have a photo of a baby in my stomach from the scan. I haven’t bled. I have regular ‘growing pains’...

But I just don’t feel like I’m going to have a baby. I’m clearing out the spare room to eventually make a new nursery and I feel like a fraud!

Not sure if it is relevant but I am extremely scared of giving birth (by either exit strategy!) and it took me over 7 years to consider ttc again after my last childbirth experience.

I am having a baby aren’t I. I just can’t quite get it processed. I certainly can’t feel excited about something I don’t even truly accept is real.

How far along are you? I didn’t feel pregnant until my baby started kicking at around 24 weeks!
Sounds as if though you have a lot of unresolved issues from your first birth, have you considered counselling?

I’m 15 weeks, seeing the consultant in a few weeks. I’m convinced he’s going to make out that I’m just silly and either won’t support me in my request for elcs or will scare me with all the worst possible scenarios to try and put me off. Which it will. And then I’ll be back to repeating history.

I just wanted to send you big hugs. Please make sure you speak to your midwife about how scared you are feeling, they are there to listen and support you xx

I felt very pregnant during my first trimester. Now all the sickness and other nasty things have eased off I don't feel pregnant anymore. No bump yet either at 14 weeks. It's definitely in there, I saw the scan!

Who is going with you to see the consultant? Speak to them before you go and make your choices clear so they can back you up if needed. I know it’s hard but be very clear with the consultant that an ELCS is the only option you will accept. You never know, they may be really understanding.

My dh is coming too. He is not at all assertive. I’m ‘the assertive one’ In our partnership (usually).

I don’t even want to hear the risks of c section as I know that will throw me for that option too. I have confided in a few sensible friends quite candidly and they have all encouraged and supported my decision to try for a c-section.
I am mentally and strong and I think I can cope with c-section but once pain is involved I become mentally very weak. My mind goes to a very dark place very quickly.