Petrified of a miscarriage, advice?

[s0f98]

I have just found out I am pregnant and for no reason whatsoever I am petrified of a miscarriage. My head is consumed with thoughts of losing this baby.

It is my first pregnancy and I have never miscarried before nor do I have a reason to worry, I just can't stop.

I understand there isn't much in my control and my body will take its course. Anybody else felt like this?

Hello again @s0f98 - I too feel really anxious but am just trying not to worry about all the things that might go wrong and focus on trying to keep safe and healthy ❤️

Hey @EL332, I'm trying so hard not to worry. I didn't find out until I was 5 weeks, after a night of tequila shots and lots of cigarettes. So I've survived this far, now I'm being strict and healthy I'm doing the best I can to look after myself and my baby. My body will take its course and as long as I do my best, that's all I can do x

Hi, I’ve been feeling exactly the same. Had my first scan last week and today I am 13 weeks, feel like I’ve wasted such a lovely time worrying. I know it’s easier said than done but try not stress. Hope you have a healthy 9 months :)

I have suffered from miscarriage- twice. I wish I hadn't worried so much in my second pregnancy - it didn't have any affect on the outcome and I was just as devastated as the first time so it achieved precisely nothing. And I missed out on enjoying the time I was pregnant...

I know it's easier said than done, but worrying really doesn't help. I couldn't allow myself to enjoy my second pregnancy because I thought I was protecting myself and preparing for the worst. It really didn't help though.

If you can find a way to relax and see the positives, give yourself permission to do that and channel your energies there- meditation, yoga, walks in the sunshine, banning dr google. Whatever works for you. Good luck x

As someone who has had multiple miscarriages and during this pregnancy very heavy bleeds requiring hospitalisation - during first and second trimester, all I can recommend is taking one step at a time. The first trimester is incredibly slow but if you get to the dating scan you'll probably start to feel better. It is hard. I am sadly not enjoying pregnancy. Not because I don't want to be pregnant but because I am constantly in self preservation mode and trying not to over invest - which quite frankly is impossible!

Just one day at a time. It's the only way.

@Katievb @CosySnuggles @kirinm thank you for all of your lovely advice and thank you for sharing your experiences with me. From what I have read, the main thing to look out for is any form of blood (within reason) and any severe cramping that comes and goes, and also lasts.

I'm filling my mind with positive thoughts and it may sound silly to some but I am talking to my body and reinforcing positive attitude that I can do this x

I was petrified of miscarrying. There really isn't anything you can do to stop it.... however, I am sure that whilst a lot of us have been trying for babies we have been on holiday drinking and relaxing etc and going out in general.

Would it help to try and put things into perspective? Or write down the reasons why you think you might and then the reasons you won't. I'm not sure if this will help.

It helped me.... you are doing all you can for your little one keep going! I'm sure all will be okay. How far along are you? X

I felt like this. I even started worrying it was a premonition and that was why it kept coming into my head. I went for a private early reassurance scan in the end which was brilliant - I just wanted to know there was a heartbeat but it turned out I was 11 and a half weeks instead of 9 like I thought so my mind was put at ease. DS is gurgling away beside me now hope you have a good pregnancy and manage to put your worries aside.

@cindersrella my last period was 20th Feb so approx 5+2. I just spoke to my doctor and she confirmed that as long as there is no spotting/bleeding or any severe cramps I should be absolutely fine. She re-ran me through the list of do nots (raw meat inc. rare steak, alcohol, cigarettes, fish etc) and she has reassured me to no ends x

Oh that's really good! I am glad you feel better, hopefully now you can enjoy 👶🏼 congratulations xxx

@sof98 I’m 4+5 and I feel exactly the same. I’m so anxious all of the time about miscarrying, every time I go to the loo I have to wipe first to check there’s no blood. I’ve booked a private scan at 8 weeks to put my mind at rest.

I felt like I was on cloud 9 with my first pregnancy like nothing could ever go wrong.. then I miscarried and the sky fell in.

Now I'm
15 weeks pregnant and I had an early scan at 7 weeks which was the earliest I could get and made me feel a bit better then I had been under a back cloud so worried and constantly checking for blood until my 12 week scan. After that I feel so much better, I'm having another private scan at 16 and I think that will see me through to the next at 20
I feel fine about it now, I just needed that extra reassurance xx

My advice would be have a private scan if you can and put your mind at rest x

Good luck lovely xx

As someone who has has miscarried in the past, all i’ll say is that worrying doesn't prevent anything. I wasted a helathly pregnancy worrying and it’s one of my biggest regrets. The odds are in your favour so try and enjoy it because if all goes well (which chances are it will) you might regret not enjoying things more. Take it one day at a time and try to distract yourself, it helps! Trust me!

Totally understandable, I've had a miscarriage before and am 8w now (with complications) I wish I could just sit back and enjoy my pregnancy for what it is. I'm trying to take it easy get lots of rest and be kind to myself. I hope you settle down and enjoy the pregnancy, miscarriage or not you are pregnant at the moment.