AIBU

[SGIB14]

My partner and I got together nearly 2 years ago and both have 1 child each from previous relationships. From the start I've been honest and said I would want another child in the future and this is something he's always said when the time is right we would go ahead and do. Right now time isn't right for us and so it's not been a topic of conversation. However the other day he decided to tell me he isn't going to be having any more children and if I can't deal with that we should seperate. I'm devasted and feel so annoyed he hasn't had this conversation with me, just decided it's a no go and that's it. AIBU in being so upset?

It seems like he led you on somewhat in the beginning
I would ask him is this a definite and if it is you needs to cut your losses
If another child is important to you - you won’t get it from him

Afraid to say it, but if you can't deal you do need to separate. He's entitled to change his mind, you don't have to stay. If it's a genuine change of heart then I think that's fair. It's really mean if he lead you on though, unless something has happened in between.

It's an ultimatum I've given DH. We agreed pre marriage on 2 kids but after my experience of pregnancy, Labour and having a child I've changed my mind. I won't have anymore. I love DH very much but I understand if his desire for more children is stronger than his love for me.its hard, and I see how it hurts him, but I can't bring a child in to the world I don't truly want.