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Hello all

I have a daughter who will be 7 in july. Now I am expecting another child a (after 2 miscarriages). Brief history i was married before but was abused badly for having baby girl. I suffered but in end i left him. Now I remarried someone else and expecting his child. All my past experience made me bit bad about having Baby girl. Yesterday I found out ( from scan) I might be carry girl again.
Since yesterday i am feeling so low. I was crying yesterday and was blaming myself.
I know daughters are blessing and all those things but i have fear that current hubs will treat me same if he find out m having girl.
So stressed 😩

You know the answer - if he treats you like shit then you need to leave him. You don’t need such people in your life. And the sex of the baby has to do with the sperm, not the egg.

Don’t assume that your current husband will feel the same. And if he does, you really shouldn’t stay with him either. That sounds very flippant but you don’t deserve to be treated like that for having a baby whose sex you have no control over. It’s his baby who he should love unconditionally.

Have you mentioned your previous relationship to you midwife and the impact it had on you? It sounds like you are carrying some trauma from your previous experiences. Rationally this is a new relationship and a new baby but you are bound to be frightened and compare it to your last pregnancy considering what you went through in that relationship. Maybe your midwife could refer you for some counselling?

Thanks ladies. Mrs samantha. I am thinking to discuss with midwife on my next appointment.