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Gut feeling..

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Windy1234 · 26/03/2018 11:49

Just wondering if anyone else has ever felt this way - last Sept I had an early miscarriage at 5 weeks - natural and very straight forward. Fell pregnant straight away however discovered at the end of October that I had a missed miscarriage and had to have a d&c on Nov 13th. Took Christmas off and have been trying since - last period Feb 16th and positive pregnancy test last week - approx. 5 weeks and 3 days, however I just don't feel pregnant. I have sore boobs and some cramps but that is about it - the same as I felt when I had the mmc. I just have a gut feeling that the same will happen this time around, not sure if I am just trying to protect myself or if your gut instinct is usually right....just looking for anyone who has been in a similar position?

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Windy1234 · 26/03/2018 14:06

sorry - anyone in this position?

in South East London so don't know whether to try and get an early scan

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DBoo · 26/03/2018 14:11

I have found symptoms never kicked in for me until 5-6 weeks. Are you doing anything differently this time?

I'm sure everything is absolutely fine. Some people breeze pregnancy with no symptoms whatsoever.

Sushirolls · 26/03/2018 14:16

I can totally understand how worrying this is for you, OP

If it helps, my daughter is now 16 weeks and hasn't had any symptoms at all, not even sickness xo

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Windy1234 · 26/03/2018 14:43

Thank you both - I haven't done anything different - after the ERPC the results came back with no cause for the mmc, but I just cant help feeling that it is going to happen again and there is nothing I can do about it :( I have had restlessness during the night and constipation (sorry tmi) but the no nausea is actually bothering me

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1Strawberry · 26/03/2018 14:49

Aw it's natural to be anxious op with the experiences you've gone through, if I were you I would beg for an early scan just to put your mind at rest, given your recent history hopefully they might take pity on you and do it even though 5 weeks is very early for symptoms and hopefully you have nothing to worry about

HopeAndJoy16 · 26/03/2018 14:51

I didn't really have any spespecific pregnancy symptoms until 6-7 weeks when I got a bfp, and even then it was general tiredness and slight nausea. I was convinced it was stress, my dh had to convince me to take a pg test! I wouldn't let myself believe it until my 12 week scan. So I can fully understand how you feel. Wishing you all the best for this pregnancy

Kittypillar · 26/03/2018 14:53

I didn't start to get morning sickness until between 6-7 weeks, so please don't let that get to you. I know it's a nervous time, but try to believe everything is fine unless you have a concrete reason to believe otherwise, you'll just drive yourself crazy otherwise

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Windy1234 · 26/03/2018 14:54

Thank you again - I might wait another week and if nothing changes then see if I can get a reassurance scan, I know it wont change the outcome but I'm struggling to get past the feeling in the pit of my stomach that this will be the same as last time.

We spend so much time trying to get pregnant and when we do we end up worrying more! I sometimes envy those who don't realise they are pregnant until closer to 12 weeks and can bypass this stage

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SaltK · 26/03/2018 14:57

Hi Windy your message struck a chord with me. I had a MMC at 12 weeks in my first pregnancy, and I had had a "gut feeling" that something wasn't right. Every pregnancy after that, I had "a feeling" and because I had 4 more MMC, I thought I was right in that "you just know" when something it's wrong. I was like you in that the results from ERPCs never showed anything wrong.

But I'm pregnant again now and had the same gut feeling before multiple scans right up to 16 weeks, and I'm now 31 weeks. My point being that I really don't think you can know one way or the other, no matter how convinced you feel, it doesn't mean anything.

It's so hard after a MC, especially if you've had a MMC as well, to trust that things will be okay. It's natural to doubt. But you sound like you have lots of symptoms, and as pps have said, some people have no symptoms or symptom coming later. Mine came and went throughout the first trimester in every pregnancy, both when babies were fine and when they weren't. You just can't know, which is so hard and I understand your worries. There's a much higher likelihood everything will be absolutely fine, although I know this brings little comfort, especially when you've got women like me coming along with nightmare stories - but I'm in the minority! Get a scan if you think it'll help, try to hold off til later if you think it'll just make you more anxious. It's hard to know what to do for the best, you just have to hold your nerve and the time will pass. Thinking of you, early pregnancy after miscarriage is a hard thing to go through

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Windy1234 · 26/03/2018 15:03

Thank you SaltK that is very reassuring. I think I have come to accept that there is nothing I can do about it regardless, I have known now for 6 days already which is the trouble with early testing - more time to worry and up until now I have been fine with the mindset that if it doesn't work out there is nothing I can do, I think it is just sinking in now though.
Congratulations on your new pregnancy - can I ask did you do anything different this time or is it just one of those things xx

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EastDulwichWife · 26/03/2018 15:10

If you're in SE London pop into Kings 9-12pm Mon-Fri and request an early scan at their EPU. No need for an appointment or a referral - it's a drop in. Hope all goes well.

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Windy1234 · 26/03/2018 15:34

That's great to know East I wasn't aware of that - thank you very much!

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SaltK · 27/03/2018 13:15

No, I haven't done anything different. The consultant told me to take extra vitamin D because I was low, but so are a lot of people in the UK!! And I took extra folic acid, even though no one advised me to! I had great reassurance from the EPAU, and weekly scans from wk7-11, which lessened the anxiety - I know there's some evidence of a better outcome in RCM with early supportive care. But tbh I don't really think those things made a difference, I think it was just complete luck. Remember, though, you're in a very different position to me; I don't mean that to be dismissive in any way, because what you've been through is awful and I remember my 3rd pregnancy after 2 MC very well - but the odds are still massively in your favour.

Yeah, knowing early just drags it all out, doesn't it!! But I would test as early as possible! 😂 Definitely get a scan if you just need to know that right now things are fine - at least then, you are only waiting between scans rather than one endless wait to 12 weeks.

SaltK · 27/03/2018 13:17

Lol just re-read that - "no, I didn't do anything differently except these things that I did differently" 😂 I guess I meant I did change a couple of things, but I don't think they made any difference.

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Windy1234 · 03/04/2018 10:53

Thanks very much SaltK - I am on extra folic acid, and a pregnancy multivitamin as well. Have a doctors appointment tomorrow but not sure whether I will be offered an early scan.

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Pinkvoid · 03/04/2018 11:14

I think gut feelings are self preservation in all honesty. I had absolutely no idea anything was wrong when I had my first MMC last year. I didn’t have nausea but this wasn’t worrying to me as I didn’t have nausea with my two DD’s either. The only indication I had of anything being wrong was brown spotting at 11 weeks which prompted me to see my GP who referred me to EPAU where I discovered the heart had stopped at 7 weeks, I was in shock and honestly couldn’t believe it.

My next MMC a few months later I did have nausea which abruptly ended at 9 weeks. Again, I didn’t think much of it because google came back with it possibly ending because the placenta starts to take over. In all honesty, when I reached 12 weeks and had had no spotting I started to believe everything would be ok. It wasn’t and I found out at the scan that the heart had stopped at 9 weeks. I did pay for two early scans during that pregnancy which showed strong heartbeats so I really don’t think early scans are worthwhile as they mean nothing.

I am now 9+3, nausea and other symptoms are still going strong so I’m hopeful in ways but at the same time am trying not to get carried away as I’m petrified in three weeks time I will, once again, find myself crying in an ultrasound room.

Fwiw my nausea never starts until 6 weeks. It didn’t with my DS, last miscarriage and this pregnancy. I think 6 weeks is the average time for it to begin. Also, as I stated I didn’t have one drop of nausea with my DD’s and they were fine.

It’s easy to over-think and it’s also easy to attempt to protect yourself by believing everything will go wrong after having miscarriages. I don’t think it means anything.

SaltK · 03/04/2018 18:17

Windy maybe if they don't offer you a scan you could ask them to do your bloods, then at least you'll have an idea where things stand? But with your history, I'm sure you could push for an early scan from a sympathetic GP.

Good luck with your pregnancy, pinkvoid, these are nerve-wracking weeks for you too xx

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