Bleeding ruining sex life...

[CallieAllie]

Anyone else suffered this? I'm 7+1 and bleeding. I've had this checked out and baby is just fine (phew!). However, I really want to have sex with my partner and I think he is getting frustrated (though of course he would never voice this).

Have any of you had the same issue?
Did the bleeding continue for a long time?

I know it's only sex and of course the most important thing here is the well-being of baby, however I do feel I'm starting to go a bit mad and I'm only 7 weeks in...

Yes and the bleeding happened on and off until about 17 weeks. It was a bit off putting but tbh I felt so tired I wasn't in the mood much anyway!

The whole area is full of extra blood so you may bleed for awhile after - as long as it stops then all good but any pain get checked.

We didn't DTD until 16 weeks (I'm 20 now) and hubby was fine with it though slightly crazy and he understood the worry.

We were also on total pelvic rest after a bleed for a fortnight so if that happens then what's he gonna do?

Sex is safe just tell him to chill out.

@minipie thanks for your answer. I'm pretty exhausted myself but would be nice once in a while! What will be will be and all that jazz. Very strange having so little control over our own bodies for 9 months!

@gryffen thanks for your answer, though not sure why I need to tell DP to chill out! He's pretty chilled already 😉

I've bled so much my DP is not at all bothered about sex. I think frustration is more tolerable than the crippling anxiety huge amounts of bleeding cause us both! (My bleeding has been heavy and necessitated admission to hospital).

@kirinm sorry to hear that. How worrying that must have been. I hope everything works out ok for you.

The issue here is not my partner. He hasn't told me he's frustrated. That's just my guess. It was more that I know sex will be difficult in the third trimester and of course after birth. It'd be nice to indulge in a little now! Was just wondering what other people's experiences of bleeding were and whether it's normal to stop and start or continue through. I'm new to all of this...

Unfortunately my bleeding has been very frequent - also new to me. Nobody seems to know why it's happening or if it'll keep happening - I'm guessing it will since it hasn't stopped yet and I'm in the second trimester. It's about every 2-3 weeks. What have doctors / midwife said about your bleeding?

@kirinm they've just said it is unexplained bleeding but they're not worried as the scan doesn't show anything abnormal. It still causes me anxiety however and part of me wonders 'did they miss something on the scan'

I just want a little sex in my life and have found my sec drive is through the roof! I love being intimate with my partner and can't help but feel it'll all be very difficult when I'm big and after baby arrives. Maybe I'm making an issue out of something trivial...

I had bleeding until about 16 weeks. We just said no penetrative sex until it stopped. Mine was due to low lying placenta covering cervix (highlighted after a major bleed at 14 weeks) butbthey wotn usually tell you about that until your 20 week scan. My placenta has moved so green light for lots and lots of sex 😃

IF your missing intimacy with your partner I’m sure it can be achieved in way without actual penetration. Massages, foreolay all that jazz