My best friends pregnant

[Wifelife]

I’ve just hosted a dinner party and my best friend announced she’s pregnant- massively unexpected, she’s got a lovey partner and we knew it was eventually on the cards but their current thing was buying a house so this was out of the blue... anyway we’re all really excited.. but my husband and I are trying, so far unsuccessfully and we’re disappointed so this is amazing but after she left this evening I cried- is this wrong? I know it can’t be timed, I know it’s can’t be ‘planned’ and I love my friend but I feel really sad for myself

This is perfectly normal, don’t beat yourself up. Be happy for your friend but don’t feel you can’t talk to her about your struggles too xx

After several miscarriages I felt like this every time someone told me they were pregnant. Didn’t matter how much I loved them. I still felt sad and upset. It’s normal. You aren’t a horrible person.
I felt really funny only the other day when a friend told me they were 13 weeks pregnant and I’m only 10! I got it into my head that if they are pregnant then that means my baby won’t live! How nuts is that?!
It’s not a rational thing, it’s so emotional. Try talking to your partner about it. I hope you get there soon. Xx

Is your friend aware you are having difficulties? I had the opposite of your situation and felt incredibly guilty that things were easier for us than for them so please don’t worry about your feelings They are perfectly normal and I am sure your friend would be supportive if she knows.

Oh I was there only a few months ago. I cried my eyes out when a close friend told me she was pregnant. Luckily it was over text so I didn't have to pretend to be happy. I mean I was happy for her but so Sad for me. I compensates by sending her a lovely card through the post and a little gift. It felt good to do that as I felt I was making up for not being properly happy for her and I guess jealous.

A fortnight later, ad it happens, I did get a positive pregnancy test finally... but it will just happen when it happens. And I have no idea how long she had been trying for herself - it could have been ages I guess.

Anyway what you're feeling is very normal. It is hard.