Guilty! Constipated, nausea, vomiting, headaches and lack of Sleep!

[aetw]

Sorry for moan. I’m so grateful for being pregnant, I really am. I’ve never got to 10 weeks on any of my pregnancies. But I’m feeling so cr@p! I’m so nauseous (have meds from Doctor, just make me feel rubbish) I’m dehydrated, constipated and have bad stomach ache from it. I’m waking at about 2.30am everyday and walk around like a zombie for the day. I’m feeling just miserable!
Sorry for the moan, just wondering if others at this early stage are feeling like this? X

Oh my gosh I totally relate to this!

The early part of pregnancy is so hard, absolute exhaustion, vomiting, worries about early pregnancy loss, telling people/not telling people etc etc etc

Give yourself a pat on the back for surviving each individual day, tick them off on a calender and look forward to he 2nd trimester which has been 1000 times easier for me at least :-)

I’m just finding it exhausting @Aw12345. Sounds like you did too.
I had these vision of just eating all organic food and doing pregnancy yoga and enjoying the experience. After 4 losses I thought I would feel overjoyed but I can say I just feel bound up with anxiety and discomfort. Oh the guilt! X

Don't feel guilty, I moaned for the entirety of my first trimester, and some of the second!
DP had to do everything for me as I was so ill, I hated every single minute of it and felt terrible for feeling that way but when you feel rubbish 24/7 and nothing helps its hard not to!

I am now 23+3 and feeling great, so hang on in there, it will get better :)

@0310Star I think I’m just thinking that if I feel this bad then I must be losing the baby, so why am I even attempting to do this to myself again. Yes, my husband is having to do everything. He looks wreaked! I’m keeping him awake too. So I do feel guilty. I would just like to eat a plate of normal food and not feel trashed! Thanks for saying it will get better! I couldn’t cope if it doesn’t!

@aetw Honestly you need to stop beating yourself up. Pregnancy is hard!!
I find it hard to listen to people who say they flew through it easily and its not an illness... no its not an illness but some of us do really struggle! I was a really active person, always have been, but since being pregnant I cant do half the dog walking I used to be able to, hills are an absolute no no, and I really do have to take my time to do things and I have learnt to accept that I am not one of the people who breeze through it.
But it will get better. Don't worry about what you're eating, eat what you can for now (I lived on sweets for a few weeks lol!) and just do what you can to get through it. I always looked at being so ill as a good sign that my baby was fine as she was making me so ill so maybe just try and look at it like that.
How far along are you? I found after about 16/17 weeks I started to feel human again

Oh goodness I just laughed out loud when I read you lived on sweets for weeks. @0310Star I have been living on toast and my mother in law said she had asked all the women at church if that was right as she was worried about the effect it was having on “her grandchild”. I was so upset. As if I’m in some way doing it deliberately to injure my baby. I’m 10 weeks and 2 days.

You can hate being pregnant whilst being glad to be pregnant, if you know what I mean. I HATED pregnancy and moaned all the way through both times. Both children much wanted and appreciated.

Toast is good I think! You're doing really well. My DH has had to do 100% of absolutely everything for the last 20 weeks but now feeling much better :-)

He always makes a joke that it's no wonder I'm tired as he contributed 1 cell and I'm contributing thousands so he doesn't mind doing the dishwasher and walking the dog!!

Just tell your MIL that you're eating everything organic, fish, steamed vegetables etc then eat whatever you want!

Exhaustion 24/7 is a form of human torture! Ignore all the crap from people.

My biggest annoyance is my boss constantly making sly remarks about all these women he knows who have been pregnant and they weren't tired at all, just got on with it, coped perfectly well and were generally amazing (mainly because I've had 2 days off sick when I was actually hospitalised with severe morning sickness). Drives me mad and I find it very patronising.

@aetw honestly just eat what you can! I went from sweets, to texting my DP in the middle of the day to get me random things to try that I fancied, to only eating bowls of veg and gravy lol! And my baby is fine.
I did find going back onto pregnacare vitamins helped too, midwife also said vitamin tablets (as in the ones that dissolve in water, the berroca)are fine and they helped give me a bit of a boost too.

I must admit, being able to eat again is pretty amazing as I am a total foody although I do still occasionally throw up! My baby decided last week that the apple I ate wasn't adequate and promptly got rid of that! I cant ever let myself get hungry, then I have a problem. Better to have little and often!

@Aw12345 isn't it the worst when other people find it so easy and just think you're moaning for no reason?
I was like the walking dead for the first 4 months, had almost 3 weeks off work with pregnancy + flu + severe viral infection, had decided 100% against any more children by about 10 weeks, but thankfully much better now. I am sure a lot of people thought I was just moaning, but I think until you have a hard pregnancy you don't realise how awful it is!

@0130star thanks :-) yer I'm really happy for the women who have easy pregnancies but doesn't mean everybody does!!

Thanks so much for all your reassurance everyone. I just hate feeling like a burden on my husband. I don’t really like his family and they are all pretty rude to be honest. I’m trying to do too much I think. X

Everyone reacts differently to pregnancy. I was very lucky in mine but one of my DDs was so ill at the beginning she stayed in bed for 4 months! - so she would be wanting to sympathise with you. All I can say is that it does pass, but I do know how grim it can be to begin with. Ditch the guilt - there is absolutely no reason at all for that. You feel grim - you have a right to be fed up!

Oh - and ignore the blooming in-laws. You are not damaging your baby at all - it is quite the other way around - the foetus is a little parasite and takes everything it needs from you, leaving you feeling crap!