11wks & just don't feel pregnant - fearing the worst :(

[aurora2018]

I'm 11wks today, had an early reassurance scan at 7+2 as we had MC in October at 5wks, all was good, saw the heartbeat. Had horrific nausea and sickness, been on anti sickness tablets, but I felt pregnant at least. The last week I just don't feel pregnant. I have my scan on Monday and OH and our son were coming but I've convinced myself it's bad news to the point where I've arranged childcare for our son because I don't want him there when we get the bad news. I can't shake the feeling that something is wrong, to the point that I've tried to get a private scan tomorrow so I don't have to wait till Monday for the bad news. The bad part is I don't even feel irrational.

I suppose I'm just after a hand hold :(

Sickness and nausea starts to drop off at 9 weeks so it could be that you've reached the other end... fingers crossed for you.

@TheMogget the rational side of me says that's right but I just can't shake this feeling. I bought a Doppler today but with the intention of using it after my scan because it will only worry me if I can't find baby now x

Well done for not using the Doppler just yet!

I was exactly the same. All of my symptoms disappeared even breast tenderness and I felt 'normal'. I too was convinced something was wrong and, as my boyfriend couldn't come, almost went alone so that I didn't have to bring my friend along to a heartbreaking experience. I changed how I spoke about the baby, speaking about it whilst preparing for the worst eg 'if everything's ok...', I stopped being excited about everything in the week running up to the scan.

Obviously, there was nothing really I could do but wait. When I saw the wriggly baby on the screen I was in real shock as I convinced myself I had lost it. I couldn't believe everything was fine after feeling the same as I did pre-pregnancy.

You're not irrational. I can't tell you not to worry because I couldn't help but worry, but it's 100% normal to not feel pregnant!

@RachelP93 I literally feel like on Monday if they say everything is fine I'll be so shocked, I don't know what it is but the feeling is so strong, I'm just positive it's bad news x

I have my 12 week scan tomorrow and have been worrying about that for the past week... fingers crossed for us both.

I'm sure all will be fine :)
Did you manage to book another scan beforehand xx

No I can't get in anywhere for one :(

Keep trying to get a scan today, they might have a cancellation.

I was like this, the only thing that reassures is a scan. Good luck.

I will do, I'm absolutely convinced baby is gone :(

Hope Monday goes well for you OP. I was the same- symptoms died off around 11 weeks (and then came back with a vengeance a week or so later). As far as I know it's completely normal to have fluctuation in "feeling pregnant", especially during those early weeks before you can feel kicks.

And as someone else has said well done for holding off on the Doppler, honestly don't use it. Midwives hate them as it can be notoriously difficult for someone who isn't professionally trained to use one- either in terms of finding something to begin with or picking up their own pulse and assuming it's bubba's. As you say it won't bring reassurance and will probably just lead to you wanting to check every few minutes(!) Fingers crossed OP x

Could you maybe travel a little further and go to another one if it just reassures you?!
Symptoms can ease off after 10 weeks though xx

After a
Miscarriage or two you end up worrying about everything, feeling 'too pregnant' and twingy With hurty Pains to not feeling enough, please try not to worry as usually it's just those sorts of feelings starting to settle as your body is changing and the placenta starts growing and taking over the child growing bit - I had a huge bleed at 12 weeks with my first baby and after having had many miscarriages is cincindesnmyseld that over the following month or so that she was gone, I was bleeding for about 6 weeks in the end and I eventually broke down and got the doctor to reluctantly do a Doppler and it was fine, she's 9 now
Good luck I'm sure it's all fine

Try not to worry too much. I'm 36 weeks and still don't really feel pregnant (night time heart burn, kicks and a huge bump aside). When he's quiet in the day I feel totally normal.

Thanks ladies, where I sent for my early scan is an hour and 20 minutes away but they have no space, it's only £40 there but everywhere else is £90 and I just don't have it. The only issue is that tomorrow we are going to Liverpool to meet friends, go out for tea and see a show so I'm kind of wondering whether it would be a good idea to go for a private scan tomorrow because of it is bad news it's kind of going to ruin the day/night for everyone really.

I feel like my mind has shifted from thinking of this as a successful pregnancy that will result in a baby, I wish I could believe otherwise

Think of yourself. If you think you’re going to sit there tomorrow worrying, you might as well have a scan.

Hi aurora, just wanted to let u know that you’re not alone in feeling this way, I’ve got my scan on Monday too and don’t feel in the slightest bit pregnant. But what I can say is that I felt exactly the same with my lb and yet there he was bouncing about at the scan.take reassurance from your first scan. I know it’s so hard and totally useless me saying “don’t worry” but I would try and go and enjoy your day today with your friends today, no matter what there’s nothing we can do but hope that all is well on Monday xx

I've managed to get a private scan tomorrow afternoon. I just couldn't wait until Monday xx

Hoping you get good news

@TheMogget thank you x

I just feel like I've totally disconnected from being pregnant, I so hope I'm wrong x

Oh my god I was exactly the same! We suffered a MMC in our last pregnancy (which was our first pregnancy) in August but I only found out at the 12 week scan! Have been petrified throughout this new pregnancy and even though we had an early 9 week scan and was all good, I was worrying something had gone wrong. I kept messaging my friend saying I was worried as didn't feel Pregnant, all symptoms had dropped off and was so nervous for the scan I almost didn't want to go but it was all fine. I'm sending you Positive vibes and remember, it's a new pregnancy and as much as you can, try not to stress over it as that defo won't help...if you've not had any bleeding or tummy pains then chances are you'll have a wonderful scan and healthy happy baby ❤️ best wishes

Hope it's good news today, OP x

Thinking of you today OP! I really hope you get happy news x

I hope all goes well today for you! Xxx

Thank you everyone, it really means a lot xx

I'll pop back on here and let you all know how it goes xx

All absolutely fine! Feel daft for worrying x