Miss being pregnant.. Baby only 10 days.. Already thinking about another.. Anyone else?

[ExhaustedAndHormonal]

So my baby is 10 days old. I'm so amazed by her. I sit and watch her for Hours on end. She's just amazing.
But surely it's not normal to already be wanting another..?
At first I joked about trying this year.. But now I'm totally wanting it.
And I know for a fact dp would too,despite at first him saying he could never see me go thro what I did ( long story which I won't go into as trying to forget)
My only concern would be the birth again or getting someone to listen to what I actually want.

How soon is too soon to try for the next one.. Not in a family dynamics way but as in for the body?
We've never used a contraceptive due to fertility issues. And haven't thought about a contraceptive yet for when I'm healed even if for the short term?

Try when you want but I urge you to wait a month or 2 at least. Newborns tend to be quite sleepy, the fun kicks in later the last thing you need is to catch quickly, have that first trimester sickness/tiredness and a colicky baby.

I would definitely wait a bit. When I first had my son 14 months ago, I was so broody and wanted another one straight away! But a few months down the line, the sleeplessness and reality of how much work a baby was kicked in!

Don’t get me wrong, he is now 14months old and I am 11 weeks pregnant with my next one so I didn’t wait too long, but I gave it enough time to adjust to life as a new Mum and life with one child - to see if I was really fit for the challenge of another one!

You are a machine! Wait for the happy hormones to die down a bit! X

18 months minimum between pregnancies is what’s physiologically recommended

I think this is common. Soon after my twins werw born I was desperate for more. By age 2 I went right off the idea, they are 5.5 now and no way would I have more!

I felt this. But it was hormones I think. Settled down after a while. 17 months between our children - I think a longer gap might have been nice, not fun waddling after active toddler when 9 months pregnant and I also missed lots of DS's first birthday and Christmas etc etc with terrible morning sickness.

My DS is now 4 months and i would love another OP.

Maybe that's because he's always slept 12 hour stretches though

So perhaps wait until the initial hormones dye down before going again? You may find your feelings change

They may not though

I think it’s probably hormonal and that the suggested minimal 18 mints between babies is kinder on your body and your baby as well. Pregnancy second time round can be difficult to give the baby your all whilst growing another baby. Whilst many women manage it admirably, it isn’t ideal.
Enjoy your baby and don’t be in a rush to add in the next one.

18 mints?!? 18 months 😂

Totally normal response.
Sense will come crashing in on your happy party at any moment.
Sense and reality and sleepless nights.
Congratulations!

I felt this way too straight after birth of DS2. Then the first development week made me remember babies are hard work.

This is exactly how I felt! I was still in the birthing pool when I announced I wanted another. We conceived ds2 when ds1 was 3 months. Then ds1 hit the four month sleep regression and I regretted it

Fast forward and my boys are 14 months and 9 weeks. I'm absolutely loving it despite the initial teething issues and occasional moments where I wonder what the hell I've done!

I'm getting those pangs again. I have already decided to wait until the boys start school. Be warned, pregnancy and a baby at the same time is tough. Sleepless nights plus the first trimester tiredness is not easy! Nor is being heavily pregnant and lugging around a prewalker! Nap times are ideal though. I slept when ds1 slept ds2 and I still do that now!

I think wait till sleep regression kicks in after 4 months and try to get into a good routine before getting pregnant again. Only to make the first few months of pregnancy less exhausting for you. My gynae told me to wait at least 6 months from a physical well-being point of view.

Due DC2 in a few weeks and it is a struggle being heavily pregnant and chasing after a 2.5 yr old!!! With hindsight, I think an 18-month gap would have been better.

Congrats on your little one!

I felt like this almost straight away too. I'm waiting for the urge to fade and it's only getting stronger! DD is 10 months.

It's just hormones. It doesn't mean anything. It's extremely common to be broody right after the birth.

Wait several months at least before you make any hasty decisions.

Kitty not every baby hits a sleep regression stage

I'm due my second in the next couple of weeks and my little boy is 22months.
My first pregnancy was a doddle, this one has been extremely tough. Throw a toddler in the mix and it's real hard work!
There's a lot of Mum guilt for times I've not been able to spend with him or play with him from sickness or not being mobile.
We are super excited for number 2 but I'm really glad we didn't do it any sooner, enjoy that precious one on one time with your baby. And congratulations!

Is the recommended 18 month gap 18 months between babies, or wait until the baby is 18 months old before getting pregnant again?

18 months before getting pregnant again. Pregnancy is a huge strain on the body and depletes your reserves of everything. It takes that long for it to fully recover.

I couldn't have felt more differently! I've also never met any new mums who feel like this!x

10 days old is a lovely blissful time. Your hormones are forcing you to be in a lovely broody state right now, just give it time before making any decisions.
I see so many on here rush into having another and then feel guilty their first child won’t receive proper attention once new baby is here

Oh my goodness, I remember these days. DD was a absolute dream baby..then she hit 2months. We are still battling the hellish, colic, fussy and clingy state at 4 months.

Definitely go for it if you want but personally I'm glad I didn't jump at the chance of conceiving again... Id have had a breakdown battling this baby stage along with pregnancy. (I also had a horrible birth experience)

I felt totally the same up until DC1 was around 6 months old. I think it's really common. I remember going for my 6 week check up and asking my consultant if it was ok for me to start TTC again. She didn't say no, but she laughed and said something like 'see how you feel in a while'. FWIW it took nearly a year for my period to come back anyway.

I'm now 28 weeks with DC2 (DC1 has just turned 2) and I'm already thinking 'oh shit what have we done!'

I waited until my periods came back and I'd finished breastfeeding. In terms of pelvic floor and general fitness I think that was sensible. Fell pregnant 1st time, when dc1 was 13 months. 21 month age gap.
Enjoy your newborn and let them be the baby for a while.

Baby only sleeps 2-3 hours max as it is to be fair.. And in all. Honesty it's more than I slept when pregnant lol. So lack of sleep isn't likely to be an issue.
Altho being fat and pregnant running round after a toddler wouldn't be so much fun lmao.
Will give it a while and see how I feel. I said to dp earlier that I'd posted this and his face lit up at the thought of another close ish together! He said his thinking is it took so long to ttc this one that of its true you're most fertile for 6m after then maybe our luck would be in? Definitely lots to discuss and think about.