Miscarrying- what to do now?

[Hannie123]

This was my first pregnancy and at 5 weeks I went for an internal scan due to cramping. The scan was positive as I saw a heartbeat and everything was okay. Sadly, over the weekend I woke up to some dried blood over my pj. Went to EGU and the woman was quite abrupt and did not want to see or scan me. She said the blood may have been caused by intercourse. However, she could tell I was distressed and agreed to do a scan. Although I was 10 weeks 5 days, she said it’s looking far too small, and there wasn’t a heartbeat. The baby had died about a week or two ago.

I have had dark brown bleeding from Saturday but it isn’t like a period. I went gp today and they said the miscarriage still hasn’t happened and I just need to wait it out. I’ve got another internal scan in two weeks to make sure all the pregnancy sac has come out. I really just want the bleed to start as I’m terrified of having invasive surgery. Is there anything I can do? When can I roughly expect the bleed to happen? I’m absolutely devastated to has miscarried ans this was my first pregnancy. So all this is very new to me and I’m so confused. Please help.

No advice to give I'm sorry except wait as the gp said. Didn't want to read and run.
I'm so sorry, big hugs xx

I’m so sorry you are going through this. I hope everyone has been nice to you.
Waiting is so hard, but if it was me I would stay in if you can because my experience anyway, and everyone is completely different, but when it started it was very very quick and heavy and I was quite frightened so I wouldn’t go to far from home and make sure someone is near by.
Waiting is so hard. I’m so sorry again and best wishes to you today x

Sorry this has happened. I understand how distressing it is - you just want it to be over with and biding your time is so very hard.
x

I am so sorry. It’s horrible and I am thinking of you. For me, I bled profusely for ages but it didn’t pass. The docs wanted to wait for me to pass it naturally and tested my hcg levels every other day and constantly kept scanning me internally before they finally offered me a d&c over two weeks later. If this happens to you, I would really recommend pushing for a d&c. It’s actually a lot less traumatic than walking around for ages with everything still inside you, and it doesn’t feel too invasive. They also gave the ‘remains’ to the local cemetery which felt respectful, although strange.

Everyone is right, it will take time. Pamper yourself, look after yourself - you deserve it. I decided to talk about it on social media several months later and so many of my friends got in contact to say they’d experienced the same thing. You’re not alone. We stand with you, the community that nobody wants to join but millions do. Sending love xxx

Thank you for message. It’s almost crazy how similar situations can sound. The emotional side has been really really difficult, when I’m around family I put on a brave face and solider on. I made a shepherds pie and apple pie and ice cream for my mum, hubby and brothers today and in those hours it doesn’t feel as bad. Then I’m alone with my husband or I just hold the white booties I brought on the day i found out I’m pregnant, and I just cry and cry. This is the hardest thing I’ve been through and even more so when you’re being prodded and probbed by internal scans.

I just pray that the bleeding starts and the miscarriage happens now, so I can grieve what I’ve lost, rather than grieve while losing it. Thank you for your kind words and I wish you all and your little tot all the best. I will probably pm you at some point if that’s okay. Thanks again x

I'm so sorry. It's horrid. My first pg ended in a mmc. I went in for a scan at 13 weeks. It had stopped growing at about 6 weeks. I needed an ERPC. It was one of the worst times of my life.
Be kind and gentle to yourself. You need to grieve. I am so sorry for your loss.