20 week scan

[Furiosaa]

I've name changed as I do kind of realise how ridiculous I'm being. Regular lurker/some time poster.

I have my 20 week scan at 9 this morning. I've been awake since 3 worrying that something is seriously wrong.

I know there's nothing I can do, and it's only 3 hours and 6 minutes until I'll be in there finding out anyway.

I need to calm down. I wish I'd slept. Just looking for some support/distraction but not sure what anyone can say

Perfectly normal! I was exactly the same before mine, it's a big milestone. I was a nervous wreck until I got in there and saw the baby wriggling about on the screen x

Not sure what to say to calm you, but here holding your hand.
Do you have any reason to worry, ie previous problems?
Have some and (it's Ribena, not wine)

Thank you peanut. I wasn't like this at all with my first, it never crossed my mind that anything could go wrong. This whole pregnancy I've had absolutely zero physical symptoms but just the most awful anxiety. It's madness!

Oh thank you pineapple. It is nice to just talk to people tbh!

No previous experience of anything untoward. I had a lot of sickness and hormonal symptoms with first pregnancy but just nothing with this one. Hardly any bump yet either and I was huge with my first.

I just can't stop worrying, I feel like screaming. I'm scared I'm going to have a breakdown when we're waiting to be seen! Thank god I'm an early one!

Try visualising the scan, everything the sonographer will do, and them saying it’s all looking good. Positive visualisations (I don’t know the proper name for them!) really help me with anxiety.

I can totally sympathise all I wanted to know was that baby’s heart was ok. Then the little devil decided to not play ball so had to go back 3 weeks later and hope it had changed position! All was ok but still such a nervous wait. It’s natural though, and I hear it’s just preparing for the lifehood of worry ahead. I’m sure you’ll be fine! Let us know how you get on, relax and enjoy watching baby have a good wriggle. Hopefully yours is more obedient than mine (although the advantage was I got so see baby again a few weeks later 😍)

Thank you both. Gosh, if they can't see everything today I don't know how I will cope! I know it's so silly and I need to get a grip though.

I will try very hard to do some positive visualisations. If I start to imagine the scan I just hear them saying there is bad news. It's so silly.

Would you believe I used hypnobirthing effectively with my first - visualised and relaxed through the whole labour and birth with no pain relief!! I don't know what's happened to me - I'm a different woman this time around

@Furiosaa I had mine on Friday and had the same fear. It was unfounded, everything was perfect and I am sure it will be for you too. Only five minutes to go!

I hope you are having a lovely scan!
Please let us know how you get on..

Hope you're enjoying seeing your little one on the screen as I type xo

I was the same as you, really chilled during my first pregnancy but am anxious wreck with my second. I do now look back with sadness and regret, knowing I wasted those precious months worrying!

Hi everyone

Thank you so much for the support - it really did help especially as I had to sit in waiting room alone as parking was a nightmare and husband had to drop me at the entrance and go off to find somewhere.

Everything was fine! We had a lovely sonographer who talked us through everything and kept describing baby as "beautiful" and "perfect". Her manner was absolutely wonderful and I'm so grateful she took the time with us - we felt really looked after.

I'm going to try super hard to hold on to today and stay positive for the rest of the pregnancy. Have another scan at 34 weeks as placenta is in a slightly awkward position at the moment.

Thank you again - power of MN certainly pulled me through this morning

😍 brilliant to hear now enjoy the next few months