Feeling sad

[SpongeCake23]

My mum won't stop going on about my weight and how unhealthy I am and how she's 'worried about me'. How fat I look in the face etc etc. She's been like this with me for years, but it's been worse the last year, now since finding out I'm pregnant its unbearable! 😔

What's your BMI? maybe she's genuinely worried about your well-being, she's a mother after all :)

Tell her she is upsetting you. Regardless of your size it's unkind to make you feel like that. If your size is an issue for you tell her you will deal with it in your own time and her comments are upsetting you.

My sil is morbidly obese. Yes it's unhealthy, she knows this. Her sister is constantly on at her to do something about her weight and it's making her depressed.

Whatever your BMI, you're pregnant now and it's not the time to think about actively trying to lose weight. All you can do is eat well for yourself and the baby, which you'll find harder no doubt with someone making you feel rubbish all the time. I'd let her know it's really hurting your feelings.

My BMI is 35 so I know I'm significantly overweight.

I'm a size 18.

Please don't feel like you have to start dieting. Just look after yourself and baby. Sod other people's comments. Does she know your pregnant?

I think she's being really rude. A size 18 isn't that big anyway. Does she have issues about her own weight?

@user1485778793 She's not overweight but I think she does have issues with weight in general, she's also very controlling and always has been. She's been like this about it for years and yes she knows I'm pregnant that's why it's much worse at the moment!

My mums mentioned my weight gain to me throughout my pregnancy - I've gone from a size 6/8 to a size 14. Unfortunately controlling mums often think they're genuinely helping by voicing their opinions. Someone passing judgement is not helpful at all and as you said it's just making you feel sad.
If you can be honest with your mum about how you feel then definitely speak to her. If you can't do that then the best thing for you to do right now is to block out her comments or just say "I'll worry about it once the babys here". I take most things my mum says with a pinch of salt. I feel like a teenager but rolling my eyes and calling her some kind of swear word in my head helps a lot!!

The best thing you can do is to follow health advice from your midwife or consultant. x

I thought you're not allowed to lose weight in pregnancy anyway so why is she bringing it up?! Not like there's anything you can do about it now!!

could she be genuinely worried about you. a BMI of 35 is obese and very unhealthy. Only normal that you mum might worry about your health. Maybe you put your focus on your health rather than feeling sad because your mum is worried about your very unhealthy weight?
Have you spoken to your midwife about your weight. There must be some pregnancy suitable weight loss programs.