Pelvic floor problems

[Josiahbartlett]

I’m 30 weeks pregnant with number two and my pelvic floor is struggling. I’ve got a cold with a horrible cough and every time I cough I wee a bit. I just can’t stop it. I’m wearing pads all the times and change them as needed. I bathe twice a day now to try to manage any smells and change my clothes lots. Any advice on how to cope with the pelvic floor?

my other problem is my husband constantly wrinkles his nose up around me now and sometimes says that something smells of wee near me. It’s got to the point where I’m paranoid to go out incase anyone can smell it. I don’t think it smells, at least not all the time, But he does. I feel terrible. I want to explain to him that i can’t help it and I’m doing everything I can ( I think) to manage it. But I need sympathy and support from him to tell me if it does smell so I can do something about it, not just constant sniffing and wrinkled noses from him. Agh.

Hi, I have horrible vomiting and when I vomit I wee and I have no choice but to change my clothes. Plenty of pairs of nickers and leggings. Doesn't happen when I sneeze or cough though I do practice my kegels alot. Have you been doing them? It's never too late to start. And if you don't find them helping after a couple of months get a referral to the physio to get checked out. You don't have to live with it.
In the meantime spare changes and a packet of baby wipes to freshen up will be your friend x

Download the NHS "Squeezy" app and do the exercises religiously - 3x day if you need to strengthen the muscles up. You won't regret it once you've given birth.

Your DH needs a good talking to. You are going through all the discomfort and indignity of pregnancy for a child that will also be his. He needs to be supporting you.

Talk to your midwife next week and get a referral to a Women's Health Physio.

Talk to your DH. Surely, if he realises what is happening, he will stop being such an arse.

I really doubt you even smell of wee at all after changing pads and washing so often. He's being spectacularly unhelpful and insensitive. I had a bad urine infection a few years ago and accidentally wet myself in DP's car (which he always keeps pristine) and he was lovely about it! No wrinkling of noses or saying it smelled; he rolled up his sleeves and scrubbed the seat.

I wouldn't worry about smelling as I'm almost 100% certain you don't. Does your DH know you're having this problem? Or is he just making references to smelling wee without knowing you're going through this? If the former, then I'd be having strong words with him to tell him exactly how unsupportive and rude he's being.