Babymoon?

[CalliopeMcPherson]

Me and DP want to go on a babymoon before baby is born. I'm only 6 weeks and we decided that we would book it when I'm about 16 weeks along (just to be safe). Thing is, he wants his 6 year old step daughter to come too... I understand he wants to take her on holiday, but isn't the point of a babymoon to have one last holiday together without kiddies? I mean, we have all the time in the world to take SD on holiday and I just wanted to have one last holiday together before child is born... is this unreasonable of me?

@fabulous01 very good point! Step-mums can't get anything right on this site! How anyone can think that a pregnant woman wanting to go on holiday with her partner for a week before baby is born is being unreasonable I DO NOT KNOW! Specially when they took SD away 5 months ago (and from what I gather have taken SD on numerous holidays an have never been on one the two of them). People on this thread sound bitter.

Thanks for all the responses

You say the site slams step mums but.... if this was a role reversal so Mum and dd with step dad and he wanted to go on a "babymoon" Mum suggested taking dd, SD come on here cribbing with a post like this you would all be jumping on him to take the child, treat them like your own.
So I'm ok with keeping my morals equal to either step parent.
FYI I never went on a babymoon as you call it because when a bump started to show and we had a hot summer I was like a sweaty whale out of water getting on a plane was the last thing I wanted to do, so bear it in mind. You will have a small bump by then! And tolerance to heat may be different in pregnancy. Maybe book last min

You won't necessarily have a bump - I didn't get one until 25 weeks. I did, however, have the most terrible morning sickness from 9 weeks so maybe hold off booking anything for a bit just in case! As for SD - I can see both sides. Also, I would be tempted to just save the money to be honest. We budgeted for mat leave and still are struggling now as we didn't foresee several large appliances breaking and needing to be replaced and the car needing a lot of work.

I think Buxbaum has put things rather well. I totally understand fancying a holiday but you are a family and this is potentially a worrying time for SD. In any case I prefer holidays with everyone there, I miss the children if they can't come. In my mind it is a bit of a waste of hard earned annual leave to not spend it all together.

@jkl0311 can I just state that I didn't say that this site slams step mums, other posters have.

DP has spoken to me about this (without prompt) and now agrees that taking SD on holiday whilst I'm 16-20 weeks pregnant isn't the best of ideas and that we could use a holiday by ourselves. We've taken her to Spain, France, Portugal, Tenerife and America. Think that's pretty good going for 3.5 years. Regardless of what other people say we deserve this holiday and are taking it! Thanks for all your answers

We’re having a holiday with my step children in July, taking them away as a four before our baby comes late September. I think it will be lovely for them to have a memory of us four before baby comes along. We have had plenty of holiday in the past just the two of us. It just depends how you feel. Could you do a weekend trip? Maybe a spa for you both as a relax x

Fantastic, have a brilliant time and hope rest of the pregnancy goes well

Thanks @HP540 - SD is going on holiday with her mum and step dad for two weeks so we are going to go at the same time (different country of course!)

Sounds like you got it sussed OP enjoy your pregnancy

Hope you have a wonderful time!

FWIW - I’d leave my gorgeous DD at home if I could for my baby moon in 2 weeks time but we live abroad so it’s not possible! Parents need time to themselves as well and I think it’s healthy to have alone time especially before a new baby comes.

Me and DH have planned a few day dates and also some family time in the next two months to make use of our time before our life gets turned upside down again

Very pleased to hear that you have it sorted, OP.

FWIW, the situation that you described in your original posts is very different to the one that you have now set out. I think that might account for some of the negative responses that you received.