Miscarriage advice

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Hello,

One of my colleagues has just had a miscarriage. She's absolutely heartbroken :-( struggles a lot with fertility too :-(

Anyone who has been in the same boat... How can I help her/support her? What should/shouldn't I say?

Feel so sad for her :-(

Xx

Hi

There's a not a lot you can say really other than you're sorry and let her know you are there for her if she needs to talk. Perhaps you can offer to speak to your manager on her behalf if she needs some time off work?

Just don't say the usual cliche crap like 'it was meant to be', 'at least you know you can get pregnant', 'you'll get another chance' blah blah blah

I had a missed miscarriage but currently no infertility problems. The worst things that people said to me during my miscarriage were
"At least you know everything works"
"Everything happens for a reason"
"Some women don't know they're pregnant at x weeks and have miscarriaged and just assumed they had a bad period so it will be like that"
This is a horrible thing to go through and there genuinely is not positive spin you can put on it. It will affect her for a long time too. I think you have to let her be sad, let her talk to you, not talk to you, go out for a coffee and distract her, or whatever she wants to do really.
I wanted to talk about it - I wanted my pregnancy to be valid even though it was short. The reason I didn't talk about it was because people would become very uncomfortable whenever I brought it up, so if she does bring it up, be open and talk and let her talk too. Don't clam up.
X

I had a miscarriage last year and was dreading going back to work. Some people avoided me, others looked awkward......( I don't blame them)
But the best response was a friend who came upto me and said " I'm not going to say anything just....." and then gave me a hug. It was the perfect way I thought x

Thanks so much for help. Poor lady, very sad for her :-(

Will follow those tips :-) x