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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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Does it get any better? :(

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Mrshand123 · 15/03/2018 21:05

Hi I'm 25 weeks 4 days. From 6 weeks to 18 weeks I had bad nausea. From 14 weeks I've had pgp/spd and today had to go hospital as had stabbing pains on left side of bump. Baby is fine got water infection. I've had bad toothache around 16 weeks. Just seem to be having bad time. I'm so happy im pregnant just not enjoying it one bit :( still got 14.5 weeks of it all still. Sorry for the rant just feeling really deflated today

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Mishappening · 15/03/2018 21:08

You will look back on this one day and barely remember it all - especially when you have your lovely little one. Grit your teeth, stick with it and all will be well.

Rogue1234 · 15/03/2018 21:12

You're really not having a good time of it, are you! It's tough being so excited to have a baby but really hating being pregnant.

Honestly? I had bad SPD and it got progressively worse throughout my pregnancy. BUT as soon as I gave birth I was absolutely fine - I literally stepped out of the pool pain free (well, my foo smarted a bit!).

I know it feels like forever but there's not long to go and you'll get to meet your gorgeous baby soon. Be good to yourself, cake is good for cheering yourself up

ruleshelpcontrolthefun · 15/03/2018 21:18

I hated both my pregnancies, especially DC2. I had sickness, SPD and pneumonia as well as having a toddler. I couldn't walk or drive or work (yay!). 41 weeks of misery. It was difficult just getting through the day. DD watched a lot of TV that year. There will be no DC3!!! Sorry, that doesn't help

BubbleAndSquark · 15/03/2018 21:26

The good thing about a tough pregnancy is that a newborn seems easy in comparison.
Imagine going from relaxing, sleeping well and feeling great to waking up through the night and getting used to looking after a newborn 24/7.
At least this way you'll be feeling great compared to the pregnancy after.

I have hyperemesis the whole way through my 3, and had so much more energy with a newborn and nightfeeds than during the pregnancy whereas otherwise I think it would've been a shock to my body and I wouldn't have enjoyed it as much as I would've felt exhausted!

OrangeHorse · 15/03/2018 21:31

I hated being pregnant, it sucks! The baby is pretty cool at the end though so I'd go through it again someday

BarryTheKestrel · 15/03/2018 21:36

Oh my you really aren't having a good time of it!
In my first pregnancy my immune system collapsed and I had illness after illness and 3 skin infections that ended up requiring surgery under GA to remove and clean out fully. It was a scary and horrible time. But honestly now, other than the scars I don't remember much of it.
I'm now pregnant again, 10 weeks and clearly remembering the hideousness of constant nausea.

Keep plodding on, it's not forever, only 14.5 weeks to go!

CremeDeSudo · 16/03/2018 10:29

Hi I just wanted to join you in a bit of a whinge. I'm 23+5 and a high risk pregnancy. I hate it. I've felt bloated and/or stretched out since 6 weeks, and the SPD and back pain started 3 weeks ago. At best I feel I have no strength in my back at all and feel weak. We've had to cancel two holidays due to the high risk stuff and my not being able to walk around due to the back pain.

I have DS who is 4.5. I hated being pregnant with him too and had the same issues, but I agree with PP who say it's worth it. I didn't think I'd do it again, and now I remember why!! But DS was worth it and I know this one will be too.

To make it worse, this time I'm high risk for a preterm delivery so I also feel incredibly guilty at feeling this way as I should be simply just grateful she's still in there!

Sorry, this was no help! Just wanted to say you're not alone. I know it doesn't feel like it, but it's not long to go (at least that's what I'm telling myself!) xx

marthiemoo · 16/03/2018 10:42

Absolutely agree with everyone else, I hated pregnancy! I kept a log of my symptoms and at one point it reached 41 (one for every week!). I threw up twice a day every day until week 38, plus such awful pelvic pain that I was functioning on about four hours sleep for the last month. It was a daily horrendous effort to drag myself into work each morning. I remember waking up around week 36 with two of my fingers at odd angles (this is apparently a thing, which I'd never heard of) and for the next four weeks I'd have to click them back into place every morning. I didn't know whether to laugh or cry. BUT as others have said, ALL of it disappeared the minute DD was born. Going from feeling so shit to back to normal overnight was the most amazing feeling. And after all of that, the night feeds and sore nipples were an absolute breeze. DD is almost six months and I'm still sleeping more than I did during pregnancy.

The thing that got me through was realising that it was ok to hate it. It's meant to be this magical time when you connect with your inner goddess blah blah. One of the hardest bits for me was people constantly saying, "oh you look glowing!" or, "isn't it a wonderful feeling!" or, "savour every moment!" And I'd had a miscarriage the year before, so I felt like I ought to be grateful. So try to remember that you are absolutely allowed to hate it and wish it was over. And do whatever you need to to get through it.

Aw12345 · 16/03/2018 16:26

Very grateful to be pregnant and looking forward to baby but HATE pregnancy. Honestly. I don't complain because know that some people would do anything to be pregnant but honestly not 1 minute of it I've enjoyed.

Also have the left side stabbing pain... Not nice at all.

It will be worth it :-)

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Mrshand123 · 17/03/2018 18:56

Don't get me wrong I'm so happy to be given the chance to be pregnant. I had a missed miscarriage a few years ago and it broke my heart and its been a long journey since. I just feel down in the dumps. I'm excited to see my little girl and finally meet her.
Thank you all for your replies, it's nice to know that I'm not the only one who isn't enjoying being pregnant x

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RLOU88 · 17/03/2018 19:01

I’m hating it tonight more than ever for some reason. Currently 25 + 3 and placenta previa with bleeding so on bed rest. Partner out having a nice evening (obvs I’m unreasonably annoyed lol) and I am loosing my mind of boredem and worry :(

Lulahsmumma · 17/03/2018 19:25

Poor you, my first pregnancy 16 years ago was horrific. The birth was pretty harrowing too. Once my beautiful baby boy arrived it was worth it. My second pregnancy was I was classed as high risk, it was easier sickness ended after first trimester. Was an extremely emotional and stressful time due to ill health and personal issues, worst year of my life, as dramatic as that sounds. The birth was a breeze in comparison my beautiful baby girl arrived and I'd like to say everything was magically sorted but the main thing was she was fine and that's all that mattered. I hated being pregnant both times. I have never forgotten the stress the illness or traumatic first delivery but I have 2 amazing children.

I Love being a mum they never cease to amaze me. I didn't struggle with the who new born thing. It all came naturally I Think the rough pregnancy is away of preparing you for the incredible journey of parenting.

Good look and once baby it here enjoy every moment accept help and always follow your gut instinct.

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