Almost 6 months pregnant & not had sex with partner since before pregnancy and I feel he's going off of me

[Waterfountain97]

Today 19:08 Waterfountain97

So I am almost 6 months( next Saturday) and me and my partner haven't had sex since before pregnancy. This isn't what I wanted but my body is always exhausted and hurting the first 12 weeks of pregnancy we all just feel crap and didn't want to be touched and I'm finding the second trimester the hardest so far as I'm always cramping have back ache and just getting through possible kidney stones . I always have uti symptoms but no uti and I don't feel sexy at all which I feel is a huge part of sex ( for me anyway) and I just feel my partner is going off of me 💔

Laurel you are not wrong, it's not a joke!
And I'm sure he will not be getting much once he's here either! X

Hey op, I felt the same, I’m 20 too :) I couldn’t have sex because I was terrified of bleeding. I’m 16 weeks today, and have had sex twice so far. Both times I tell my oh that I don’t want too rough just to be gentle. Both times I haven’t bled :) yes I sometimes feel like crap and when I do I tell my oh to reschedule for a weekend so I can have a lie in and feel abit better ;) just relax and do it when you want too, you oh may moan about the wait but at the end of the day when the baby comes it will all be forgotten x

@Brownbear84 my OH wanted kids as much as me, I feel a bit bad for your OH if you were using him to get pregnant and feel bad for you if he uses you to get his jollies off. But your business.

I think there are two ways to read OPs post:

1. I don't want to have sex, is that OK?

To which everyone sensible has said 'yes of course it is!' Because - of course it is!!!

2. I want to want sex, but I'm achy/tired/don't feel sexy. What can I do?

I read it this second way, which is why I suggested trying to resolve any physical issues that can be resolved eg UTIs, SPD; talking to her OH and thinking about whether there are other things she can do like cuddling/date nights to feel close even if they can't have sex. I'd echo pp who suggested waiting until the weekend when you're more rested as well.

Whichever one you meant OP, you are not alone. Pregnancy is such a huge thing to do to your body and your emotions, it is totally normal for it to affect your sex life like it has.

Yeah my response was along the lines of Clare. I did clearly say that if you don't feel up to it, that's absolutely fine, very common, and not something to be pressured into. But I did also share my experience about things that DH and I are doing to have some regular sexual intimacy with each other, working around the difficulties I've been having in this area since becoming pregnant. However I did clearly state that this is because I want sexual intimacy and want to improve things in that area, if I didn't, for whatever reason, then that would be that. As I said, there was a long period without any sexual intimacy when I was really ill with HG and obviously DH didn't even mention it once during that time as he's not a complete turd.