12 weeks Postpartum & am I pregnant

[JazzyJefff]

Hi
I'm currently 12 weeks PP, and I haven't yet had my first period since having my DD. My DH and I have done the baby dance unprotected a few times and I've got some symptoms but I'm not like before.

I've got lower back pain on the left side, mild infrequent cramping and I'm knackered. But this could all be from looking after my newborn.

When I was first pregnant with my DD I had sore boobs, headaches and nausea.

Can your symptoms be different the second time?

Also I've done a couple of pregnancy tests but they've all been negative. But I think if I were pregnant it would probably be too early to get a positive result anyway!

Any help or advice from your own experiences would be greatly appreciated!

@NorthernLurker , unless you’re agreeing with PP who agreed with their PP who agreed with their PP who agreed with their PP who is sucking the bum of the OP, then your advice is totally wrong and you should be ashamed of how wrong you are

There is only 11 between my two eldest dc, although it wadnt planned it was the best thing that could have happened. Take no notice of other people stating that your baby needs all you attention right now and that wont happen if you have another, or whatever was said. Women have beeb having babies with small gaps between them for hundreds of years, plus they have twins too. I cant much remember my symptoms when we found out we were pregnant again, but i do remember not getting ny period and definitely feelijg different. Plus when i am pregnant i tend to talk more in my sleep and have been known to skeep walk a little bit, they were dead giveaways. Anyway, good luck op. Its wonderful to watch kids with small age gaps grow up, they become so close(and also fight like cats and dogs, currently going thru this right now and they are 4 & 5) still wouldn't change a thing though.

Actually... women haven't been doing this for hundreds of years. Ecological breastfeeding evolved so that women didn't get pregnant so soon after the birth of their child as their body was still nurturing the first and repairing itself. All very clever really.

In this day and age two very close together pregnancies doesn't matter as much thanks to advances in health care, but I hate misinformation.

@8DaysAWeek on that note, did you see that the chimpanzee in Chester Zoo (if anybody watches the zoo program) who gave birth to another baby when her baby was 2.5, which naturally speaking is very rare. They assume they did it because she felt like she was in a safer environment and ready... but then they realised because it was so close to the other baby that the first one wasn’t getting much attention, they said that the babies learn how to do so much from their mothers in relation to how to treat others and how to mother their young and learn general life skills... and the first baby would now miss out and have to be more independent earlier which would likely hinder how the first baby turns out.

I thought it was pretty fascinating

That's so cool. Biology/nature at it's best! Wee shame for the older chimp though :(

Baby dance is just a foul expression

Baby dance is just old. It’s from fertility friend circa 2003. No big deal

Missmorley my concern wasn't so much attention for the baby when a sibling arrives when it's nearly a year old, that's life and I have three dc myself. It was more that her baby is very, very young and if she's getting all anxious about ovulation and timing now she's not going to get the most for them both out of her baby's very youngest months.

@NorthernLurker at no point did I say I was anxious! I think it's sad that all you can do is judge people you don't know completely unfairly! My post was asking people's advice on their experiences in this situation, none of which you have supplied!

If you haven’t already I would talk to your GP about your iron levels and consider taking an iron supplement. As I understand it one of the problems with a short birth interval is insufficient time for iron levela to recover from the blood loss at birth. Oh and good luck!

Are you breast or bottle feeding? I conceived my second when my first was 6 months old, and I was still bf her. My second was also ebf and she was 5 months when I caught with dd 3, I never had a period in between pregnancy’s and wonder if my girls would have been closer if I wasn’t bf them. Having my three dd all very close was wonderful, good luck in your future.

To clarify, I've spoken to my GP & HV, my iron levels are normal, I'm in perfect health, I'm in a stable marriage and my DD receives mine and my husbands full love and attention, I ovulated last week (which I wasn't anxious about), I wrote on here asking for advice about pregnancy symptoms as it's too early to get a positive pregnancy test result. And my terminology on "baby dance" might be outdated but I'm new to mums net and I thought it was a light hearted way of saying make love, shag, fuck, screw, bang etc!

You're very defensive op.

Because people like you @NorthernLurker love nothing more than to be critical!

Calm down OP. Good luck.

My symptoms were very different on both pregnancies, with my first I just felt different, I felt full all the time like after a big meal and gross alert I have very bad burps and waves of feeling sick.

With my second I had no sickness and I felt completely normal, the only thing that would have made me think I could have been pregnant was the odd day with sore boobs - it was my partner who said to test as I jusy seemed different but couldn’t pin point what.

Good luck! Test again in another week or so.

Nothing wrong with saying baby dance. In fact, I'm going to try and use it more after reading this thread just for those comments get a grip ladies

This isn't AIBU. The rudeness and lack of support for the OP is awful. Clearly a lot of people who have felt the need to take a dig haven't had any fertility issues whatsoever.

This is a pregnancy board ffs. It's a shame I'm having to remind grown women that if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all.

OP, take no notice of the negitivity. You a most certainly not being defensive but explaining yourself which you shouldn't have to do very well.

I think it's lovely you are trying for a baby close to your first. Hopefully everything will run smoothly and your babies will be so lucky to have a sibling they can connect with and do age appropriate activities together.

Very best of luck for you!!

Oh and here's another gem... Baby dust!!!!