12 weeks but unsure on it all still..

[Molly33]

So today is 12 weeks and most woman are delighted but me im still staring at the two pregnancy tests unsure. My scan is on Friday and part of me doesnt want to go i keep thinking they will say no heartbeat or secret miscarrage. Ive had no breast tenderness no morning sickness. Ive only been tired peeing more but not loads. And had strange tastes. My belly has changed but people have said that can still happen with secret miscarriages. Im a wreck friday seems so far off still. I really want this baby yet im grieving for something I don't even know thats happened.

Feel the same at the moment - could have written the post myself. I have had some symptoms however and I'm not sure whether I'm just getting used to them if that makes sense. My scan is tomorrow and I'm feeling extremely anxious - it all feels extremely surreal and at times I really do forget that I'm pregnant. I'm so worried that tomorrow they'll say there's no heartbeat it's my worst fear and I feel awful for thinking it. From what I've read on here your feelings are completely normal and you are possibly just one of the lucky ones who hasn't had any symptoms. Wishing you all the best. Xxx

Symptoms aren't the same for everyone. There are no real reasons to suspect a secret miscarriage.
Try to stay calm until Friday. I feel like the chances of happy news are a lot bigger than the chances of sad!

Same here - I'm 11+1 and hardly any symptoms at all. Strong sense of smell and the thought of most foods makes me feel sick. No sickness though at all. The only thing really is increased migraines but that's not reassuring me either. I had an early scan and although there was a heartbeat the baby was measuring over a week behind but I know my dates so I'm really worried. I've got another week to wait until my scan.

I've got to wait another week for my scan and I'm utterly terrified of missed miscarriage, I didn't even really know it was something that happened until I read about it on here. So so scared.

Thanks both of you its such a worrying time i had all the usual stretching cramps and all that as my midwife says but they stopped at about 6 or 7 weeks i think 2 weeks ago my ribs hurt but just nothing.. I really dont feel pregnant. I suppose looking things up on the net isn't the best as people turn online for comfort when bad things happen. Just worried that if i start letting myself enjoy it by friday it might all be dashed. Hope your scan goes ok too. I need to keep very busy this week..

I never knew it was a thing either until i read about it! and now its all i think of ive stopped myself looking up bad things.. But seeing it cant be undone can it so its all I worry about such a scary time wish we could enjoy it more..

I feel he exact same but mmc is actually rare. What I'm telling myself is to look around; everyone I see is a product of a successful pregnancy. Yes it's possible that at my scan I will have bad news but there likelihood is that all will be well. I keep feeling so anxious and I'm trying to take it day by day.

Oh hun I know how you feel and My heart goes out to you. Even with an early reassurance scan last week my reassurance was short-lived... I think so many women feel this fear of the 1w week scan. There is waaaay more chance of everything being fine than not though. And you're right - you often hear about the worst case scenarios on the internet rather than the expected, more common, happy stories where everything goes fine.

That said it is good to be aware of the potential risks. A small percentage of women do get bad news at the 12 week scan. But a massive amount more get happy news. Worrying truly will do you no good ... just try to keep busy and stay off google! I find myself more panicked and upset after googling things like 'chances of miscarriage at X weeks' because inadvertently Google directs me to forums where lots of worst case scenarios suddenly appear way more common than they really are!

Look after yourself :) my scan is Friday week, so not long after yours. Let us know how it goes (fine I'm I'm!) X

I'm now 21 weeks and didn't have a single symptom - no sickness, no tender breasts etc.

I did have a reassurance scan at 8 weeks and then normal scan at 12 weeks but all is healthy and well with our baby girl.

I do completely understand your feelings though and think they're only natural good luck for the scan

Hello and congratulations on your pregnancy.

I am currently 26 weeks pregnant and felt exactly like you at 12 weeks. I had no symptoms nothing I really didn’t think there would be a heartbeat and I cried like anything when I heard baby beating away all my symptoms (sick, tearful and cramping) come late at about 16 weeks so either you may get them late like me or not at all! Everyone is different x

Take care of yourself and do try to stop stressing too much it never helped me

Thank you so much its noce to hear others were in a simular situation too i hope everythint will be fine on Friday normally everyday life 12 weeks zoom by pregnancy 12 weeks drag!! Im glad it's normal im feeling like this. Ive just slept for two hours and.its an afternoon i feel like i need more that certainly passes time.

@Molly33 I had no real symptoms, I didn't feel pregnant what so ever, and still don't really but I'm now 16 weeks and had 2 scans with another one next week! Everything perfectly fine and normal

I know it’s hard not to worry but symptoms do come and go. I’m 23 weeks and had my first scan in January. I got quite lucky as the nausea only lasted till week 9. However, I did t perceive this as luck. I was convinced the baby was gone. For 3 weeks prescsn I had virtually no symptoms. 2 days of nausea over Xmas. Anyway baby was fine. Chances are you will be fine too. Good luck x

Its good to have the reassurance im hoping it will all be ok. But Friday does seem like ages away..im impatient which doesnt help xx