I was expecting this to happen... so why am I so upset? (all about lack of sex - sorry!)

[PurpleLostPrincess]

Sorry guys but I just needed to vent a little bit!

DH and I have always been very active and after nearly 5 years of marriage we're (up to now) still like honeymooners! I knew that there would come a point in this pg where sex would become an issue and that it would probably die down but I'm really struggling with it. I even expected him to not want to partake in bd'ing when I got the BFP but for some reason we were bd'ing even more!

I know many people go through this and I can rationalise it in my head but I'm almost heartbroken about it and I don't know why!

We've not been as 'active' just lately and I asked DH outright if he had gone off me and he pretty much said yes because of the baby. (he worded it as nicely as he could but it cut like a knife!).

I'm annoyed with myself because we've created a lovely baby in my tummy and I should be grateful (which I am) and not worry about silly things like sex. I just want to be close with DH while we still can as I know it will be difficult when LO arrives. Also, I've still got quite a high sex drive, probably just hormones I guess!

Thank you for listening - feel free to tell me to buck my ideas up!!

I don't blame you i'd be the same, tell him theres more than 1 way to skin a cat, you can do other things that make you feel close and may even lead to sex. Good luck!

dont worry PLP im in a similar situation but i thought it would be me not wanting (only due to feeling sick ) as i normally get really horny when pregnant,

but seemed that my sickness only lasted till lunch after that i was fine and we were having it in afternoon

trouble is we sent for a scan last and its all gone the other way , im week 9 wks and now hes gone all slushy worrying about another person being inside their, hurting it etc . so i cant win and im left gagging for it!!

Not sure what bding is but there's no reason for no sex when pg, in fact I had the BEST orgasms ever when pg

Definately worth doing.

I wanted sex all the time when I was pregnant (totally agree with BofM) but DH was dead paranoid about the baby despite me showing him every single thing I could to say it was ok! Managed to persuade him towards the end on the basis it could bring on labour and it was his duty ... unfortunately it did so only got to use that reason once!

Thanks for your support guys. You're right about having amazing orgasms while pg, I want more!!!

Bd'ing = Baby Dancing (sex)

I think he's looking at me all pure and innocent now that it's hit him that I'm carrying his daughter - seeing her at the scan was a big turning point for him!

I wouldn't mind but we don't usually go the whole hog and we normally enjoy the other aspects of the physical stuff in our 'sessions' IYSWIM! I guess I just need to calm down and face the fact that batteries are probably the only option from now on!

I just miss him fancying me - I guess he just sees a baby machine when he looks at me now lol!

I'm glad somebody else posted this as my dp and I have been having probs on the bedroom front in that he's having trouble 'rising to the occassion' since we found out I was pg. I asked him what the prob is and he says he can't concentrate as there's so much going on in his head.

It is really upsetting, esp when you're feeling so vulnerable and this is the time you need your partner to show you how much he feels about you. It's hard not to feel like any more than a baby incubator.

I really don't have any advice, I'm just trying to give my dp some time to get his head around it. Maybe take a couple of days away from each other to see if that reignites the spark (I'm trying that this wk).

I think it's pretty common so I wouldn't worry about it and I'm sure he still fancies you, he just wants to protect you more. Here's hoping we have lots of fantastic sex soon

DH didn't want to go near me when I was pg...its the Madonna/Whore complex....as soon as you are pg, they see you as a Madonna type figure and therefore too pure and good to shag.......

I'm so glad I'm not alone!!!!

Its totally normal! Added to which men are seriously deluded about the penetrative power of their ahem...members...and worry about causing damage etc......as if!!!

lol Nikki

I remember first time round when I got to the third trimester DH thoght it was Xmas, Birthday & Valentines Day all at once. Towards my due date tho' I was telling him to just do it & he didn't even have to bother with f/play or kissing as I just wanted to get the wee bugger out. Funnily enough this time round I've been a bit reluctant abour penetrative sex & Bj's out of the question because of the all day nausea, we've been pretty inactive all round so far. Hope things get better for you.