Does anyone feel left out?

[K9pal7]

Hi, i know i may out like am over reacting or being selfish. Me and my boyfriend used to go out on a Friday night for a few drinks but recently he only ever want to go out on his own to the pub. I know am pregnant and can't drink but I've said to him that i can still go out with you every so often. One afternoon he said to me do you want to come with me then 2 mins later he said no point you can't drink. I don't mind him going out and seeing his friends on his own but recently i just feel a little left out or feel that he doesn't want to be seen with me. Then he wonders why i didn't really want to do anything

Just because you can't drink doesn't mean you can't go out! You don't need to get pissed to have a good time. Must admit I don't go out as much as I used to before I was pregnant, but that's more to do with the fact that I'm usually feeling quite tired and nauseous rather than because I can't drink.

Your boyfriend is being horribly unfair and cruel IMO.

Everything else he is so supportive with. He goes to me why don't you go out with your friends then I'll just say what's point i can't drink (just saying what he says) then he goes it doesn't matter you can still go out with them for a bit. Then i said why don't i go out with you tonight he just goes you can't drink so it'll be boring for you 🤔 so it's okay to go out with my friends but not with him

Btw i know he isn't cheating before anyone says that

Maybe he feels awkward drinking in front of you when you can’t
So it’s easier for him to just avoid that situation

Maybe i did think that but when we have been out for a couple of meals he's drank alcohol in front of me then

I feel a bit like this. My partner has gone for a few drinks tonight after work even though we had previously said we'd spend tonight together and last week he got tickets to see a concert with his friends 1 month after baby is due to see a band we'd usually go to see together. His friends were buying tickets so he told them to get him one without even telling me first.

I feel so relieved am not the only one. It's rubbish you know deep down that they do care but then sometimes feel like they don't. He goes once you had kid you'll be able to go out then i said i won't I'll be looking after the baby then i just said suppose I'll have to get used to being on my own most Friday's. I don't mind him going out never did before i got pregnant but it's just rubbish when he just doesn't want to go out much with me. I mean i don't want to sit in a pub all the time but sometimes it'll be nice to feel like am involved still as i am friends with people who go in.

@ballerini it's not the fact they are going it's the fact he never asked if you wanted to go as you deserve a break every so often

I know, I think men just think of themselves sometimes. I've only ever met a handful who aren't selfish pricks tbh.
I'm not bothered about him going out tonight although it would have been nice to know in advance but I was disappointed about him booking the concert. I haven't had 12 wk scan yet so my dates might change and I'd rather we don't have anything at all planned for after the baby comes.

Yeah i understand i wouldn't want anything much planned around the due date too.