Tips on how to enjoy pregnancy more.

[Pereie]

I am pregnant with my first and hating every minute.

I have tried to be more positive about it but honestly the sickness and pain is just making me miserable. I can't stand to look at myself in the mirror and look forward to going to bed at night so I can forget about it while I sleep.

I have been looking forward to becoming a mother my entire adult life and this baby is very much wanted. I just can't believe how badly I am coping with actually growing a baby - I feel like such a failure.

Any advice on how to be more positive? Blogs or books to read etc? I am fed up listening to myself moan about it.

Can't wait to wear some different clothes again! I didn't want to splurge on many pre-pregnancy clothes so have made do with a couple of pairs of maternity trousers...well I have washed and worn them on a near daily basis and they have developed holes in the crotch area...despite sewing the holes up they have reappeared to a point now where all I want to do is stick them in the bin. Knicker elastic has gone on a pair of my big knickers too...just fed up...37+3 today...consultant wants to induce me at 39 weeks...wake me up when its all over!

Also, I should have known what was coming this is dc3...but for me each pregnancy seems to have got progressively harder, I have got progressively bigger with each one and...I have got progressively older too...this is definitely my last pregnancy.

:( . I was very depressed in my pregnancy and very sick - weirdly for me that kicked in after the first trimester.

I took my maternity leave from the last two months of pregnancy, and spent it in bed reading and watching good films. I'd recommend doing that if you can if you are really suffering!

I felt much happier after I had my baby, and felt much more up for work, even with the sleepless nights and everything that I had to do - I still got my sleep and felt better than when I was pregnant!

It's a tiny fragment of your life. If you're like me you'll forget how awful it is until pregnant again and then curse yourself for forgetting

I really hate being pregnant, and the guilt associated with hating it. I truly would prefer several labours than a single pregnancy I dislike it that much. However I quite fancy dc3 after I've had dc2, so I hope that shows you it's worth the crap you put up with!

I hate it too! I don’t do pregnancy very well at all and it does make me feel like a failure when you hear of some women running marathons/climbing mountains/still doing high powered jobs whilst pregnant!

I’m awfully sick, tired, achey, uncomfortable, out of breath and generally not glowing. Currently 27 weeks with my second - it took me 5 years to even consider doing it again after the first time.

This too will pass. This too will pass.
It’s ok if you are suffering, as in, you haven’t failed - you have been unlucky.
I’m sorry it’s not going well.

Sorry you're feeling rubbish
My advice is to just get really excited about when baby arrives. Start planning and thinking about what you're going to buy for the baby and how you're going to decorate their room. A lot of people don't enjoy pregnancy for loads of different reasons but you will enjoy being a mum and that's the important thing!

I was as sick as a dog from 5 weeks to 38 weeks when I finally gave birth. I hated being pregnant. It will be over before you know it though (even though it does feel like a lifetime).

A what everyone else has said, and your next will be different. I know it’s not like it is in the books, but the end product is really worth it.

You are NOT a failure. You are growing a whole new human, how impressive is that?

Another one who hates being pregnant here. I’m 26 weeks with my second (after a 4 year gap because I couldn face the thought of being pregnant again) and although I love feeling baby move around and the excitement of a new baby in the future pretty much everything else I hate. Suffered horrific sickness, still sick now if tired/ run down, pelvis is killing me now as I wait for physio referral and just generally have very little energy or patience.

I work shifts and nightshifts are almost killing me these days yet I’m trying hard to struggle on as lots of people have the whole “pregnancy is not an illness” mindset and it’s hard to admit that actually pregnancy does make me ill. I ended up with pre-eclampsia with my 1st and preterm delivery so extra monitoring for that this time round which is reassuring but I am more anxious as feel like I’m just waiting for it to strike again.

All that aside my daughter is the best thing to ever happen to me and I can’t wait to meet this little one. Pretty sure I’ll never be pregnant again though as it just doesn’t agree with me so 2 children seems just right.

Hope you start feeling better soon and get to enjoy it even a little.

I'm so grateful for this thread. I had a lovely pregnancy with my daughter but didn't enjoy it because I was so scared of something going wrong. It took more than 2 years ttc, followed by a miscarriage before that pregnancy. I really tried to relax but couldn't stop being petrified just in case something went wrong.

Now I'm expecting no 2, happened a little sooner than we anticipated but no complaints there after how long it took first time. However, I'm constantly nauseous or sick and have no energy at all. I'm just coming upto 12 weeks and hating being pregnant, I really don't know how I'm going to deal with another 6+ months of this . I also feel like I'm missing out on enjoying my daughter because I feel so awful all the time and feel so sad for her as I want to make the most of the time before I have to split it between 2 children.

There is no need to brainwash yourself into liking it.

One of the things no one really talks about is that for many women, pregnancy is a bit shit.

I’m suffering from hyperemesis as I did with my first - nine months of constant churning awful nausea. Plus spd coming in again. I’m exhausted, already having trouble sleeping and walking, my throat is bleeding from the vomiting and I’ve got another six months of what I can only describe as like the worst hangover of your life mixed with food poisoning. In a ferry in rough seas.

Positive affirmations can fuck off, quite frankly.

It’s not unusual to feel like this.

I think just say to yourself ‘ this is my body, my pregnancy and I have the right to do what’s right by me and the right to feel exactly the way I do about it’

You can’t win as a woman. You are bombarded with crap all the time.... people’s opinions on how you should feel, how you should act, what you should do. At the end if the day it’s your body. We all react different to pregnancy.