Partner not keen on antenatal classes

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Just wanted some advice really.
My partner hasn't been that interested in the pregnancy I bought him a funny first time dad's book hoping he might read that but he's not that sort of person I guess.

I have antenatal classes starting next month and he said he would come to the class about how to look after a newborn but wasn't interested in the other classes such as the labour one which I feel is important.

My mum's disabled so can't come and my sister only interested in like baby yoga kinda stuff as birth grosses her out which has left me feeling a bit worried about how I'll deal with the birth itself. I really wanted to have a Hypnobirth as I have anxiety and feel this would help me but my partner has laughed it off as hippy stuff.

My partner's great he runs his own business and supports us both so he's always got a lot on and I know he'll be a great dad. Maybe I'm just being selfish I don't know. First time mum and just a bit scared about going to classes on my own and giving birth.

Your partner should go to at least 2 classes with you. It's about support, not whether he's interested or not. I'm not interested in everything OH is interested in and likewise - but there's such a thing called compromise between couples that care about each other.

It's awful when the person you're with is deemed the "important one". He isn't more important than you just because he works/runs a business. Money is not everything. It would be if it bought time and health...

I hope your DH realises a selfish and disinterested attitude is spoiling what should be a happy and exciting time for you. I also hope you have other support as tbh his attitude to this is horrible and doesn't bode well.

FWIW I only went to 3 classes, didn't feel I needed to attend all. I'm sure DCs dad wasn't interested in classes particularly, but he came to 2 and was excited about being a dad