Only child

[SpongeCake23]

I am currently pregnant and am not planning on having another child. Due to my mental health issues (anxiety and history of depression) I only want one. I know this one is going to be very hard for me anyway. I'm already extremely anxious everyday.

I mentioned this to my mum the other day and she responded with: "Oh I think that's really cruel" what?!

Not cruel at all.

I have bad mh issues and currently pregnant with ds2, and I have thid feeling of horrible guilt that ds1 will not get my undivided attention anymore. I know it's silly to feel like this but I can't shake it at all!

Some people like to have an opinion on everything. Take no notice, you're doing what's right for you and your family. Of course it would be better to have one child than to knowingly put yourself in a position where you're mental health will massively suffer by having more than one child, and then not be able to properly take care of them. You are being very sensible OP. I hope your anxiety begins to ease as I know just how debilitating mental health issues can be

I always wanted 2 babies, dh wanted only 1.
I can say Preganncy for me mentally has been one of the most difficult periods of my life, been mentally broken several times , this will be my only biological child, If i ever decide another one i think i'll be inclined to look into adoption.

Cruel? Maybe but i also find cruel that a child/toddler would need to put up with my mood for 9 months without understanding why his mum is crying most of the days worried about something. (i also have fertility issues so it'd be likely that 2 years of my life would be spent with mental issues like it has happened with this one)

I believe you need to do what is right for you and your family (husband and children) the rest of people will always critisize.

My DH and his sister really hate eachother. Having two kids doesn't have to mean extra happiness for the kids, it could be a lifelong pain in the ass to have a sibling.

I was an only child and perfectly happy. My mum and I are really close. I'm not a spoilt brat, although I always joke that being poor helped with that! I didn't have siblings but was always socialising with other kids and have always been relatively popular (even at secondary school when I skipped a year and had to start making friends all over).

I am quite happy in my own company, which made me a good student and meant I didn't date any old dickhead just to have a boyfriend. As a result I have a successful career and a wonderful husband. Plus twins on the way.

Not sure what other stereotypes there are about being an only child. But I think it's how you raise them that determines things not just being an only child.

I’ve been told that but a couple of people now when I’ve said we are only having one. I had a horrible pregnancy from start to finish and then we both nearly died. I can hand on heart say I’ll never be doing it again but people seem to forget the reasons why. Ignore people, I’ve learnt to.