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Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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omg71 · 05/03/2018 19:47

i found out 2 weeks ago that i am pregnant at the age of 46 i had only been with my partner for 3 months and it all happened too soon when i told him he said he didn't want the child or have anything to do with me. with my emotions flying around i feel lost and lonely

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Brownbear84 · 05/03/2018 19:49

Are you keeping the baby? If so time to get prepared and ring the doctors etc,the guy might be in a lot of shock xx

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omg71 · 05/03/2018 19:53

iv not decided i have doctors in morning x

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Jamhandprints · 05/03/2018 20:02

Hi OMG, how do you feel? Do you have any other children? Would you like to have a baby?
I am currently pregnant with a surprise baby and it is really difficult. I chose to go ahead but still sometimes feel like my body has been taken over and I just want it all to go away. I don't think I could have coped with ending the pregnancy though, so I made the right decision for me.
Sending hugs!

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omg71 · 05/03/2018 20:15

HI
i have a i child not living at home 25yrs old i am undecided whether to keep or end pregnancy. Not sure could cope with a child at my age with no support.

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LauraO1905 · 05/03/2018 20:20

Well take some time to think about what you want to do, so you can be sure you're making the right decision for yourself. Have you any other children?

As for the father, if you do decide to co to use the pregnancy he doesn't have a choice of having 'nothing to do with you or baby'. Too late for that. So make sure you take steps to have him pay maintenance.

Good luck whatever you decide xx

LauraO1905 · 05/03/2018 20:21

Continue the pregnancy*

Brownbear84 · 05/03/2018 20:47

I couldn't bring a baby into the world if the father told me he didn't want it,but that's just me I couldn't cope with a child at my age on my own and I'm 33,it's your decision though xx

Fidgety31 · 05/03/2018 21:12

@omg - I’m in a similar situation. I’m 42 and have three older kids, no family support etc.
Do what’s right for you, no one else.

@brownbear conversely I couldn’t kill a baby just because the father asked me to.

Brownbear84 · 05/03/2018 21:25

Killing a baby? No it's cells and you do what is right for yourself!

lozzalou93 · 05/03/2018 21:44

Was it an ‘accident’? This may seem unpopular with most women but the dad should have a choice if that’s the case. It will effect his whole entire life too.. Yes it’s the females body but If you were on birth control and it failed.. well he had sex assuming it wouldn’t and that this wouldn’t be a possibility. If you both chose not to use birth control then it’s his own problem as he knew that would be a possibility

Whatever you decide to do, I hope you find peace and happiness with your decision x

heatherxo · 05/03/2018 21:54

Please do what is right for YOU.

I let my ex bully me into having an abortion and it fucked with my entire life. It totally screwed with my mh and I almost succeeded in ending my life because of the whole situation.

Sorry you are going through this OP

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