BROODY

[Elstevenson]

o for the past 3 months (maybe longer), I have been incredibly broody. I litrally crave the whole pregnancy, the birth, the newborn, the watching it grow, all the good and the bad. I think it may have started when my youngest nephew turned 1 and I craved the tiny baby back.
The issue that’s made it worse is my other half’s brother and girlfriend have just had a little girl. Just seeing the family fuss over her has hit me hard. I’m not afraid to admit on here that I am incredibly jealous...I’ve had a few tears and it’s really getting to me. I can’t concentrate at all, I’m constantly thinking about it. I sit and crave to be a mum.
I’m 19 and will be finishing my course in 4 months. My other half is 21 (22 soon) he’s an electrician and I work with 3 months- 2 year old so believe me I see the worst and the best of the babies. I thought maybe spending a lot of time with children would help but it didn’t so I took a week from work and again it didn’t help.
I’m a really loud bubbly girl and I can almost feel my personality changing over this☹️ How do I stop the feeling! Any advise!

Sorry, no advice other than to say that if you're really that broody then being on a forum full of currently pregnant women may not help. I'm not sure which would be best but there are other sub sections that may help you a bit better where pregnancies aren't in your face so much.

Good luck!

I feel for you, it's your biology! We're naturally programmed to feel that way at times and at 19 you're biologically in a good place to have a baby, even though you might not be in the right place yourself. I certainly wouldn't have been ready to become a mother at 19, but I had lots of times where I felt really broody!

It probably is due to the fact your nephew is getting a bit bigger, we're programmed to want a wee squishy newborn again. If I were you, I'd take comfort in the fact that it's just biology and you have to just ride it out, it'll pass! I'd throw yourself into other things right now such as spending time with your friends, exercise, nights out, studying, whatever it is you enjoy. Things that are much harder with a baby in tow!

At 29, I had my first baby. Well worth the wait and I'm glad I waited as I personally wasn't ready before then, even if my body and hormones told me otherwise at times!

Thank you so much that’s really helpful! I’ll try keep my self busy! I know it will be worth the wait. Really appreciate your advice

I became a mother at 19 and I wouldn’t change a thing... but honestly it’s so much easier when you’re older. You’re capable now but it will be much more difficult than it needs to be, but in a few years you’ll breeze it.
There’s a lot of mentally growing up you do in your late teens and early 20s - you just don’t realise until you’ve gone through it.
I’ve essentially grown up with my eldest, we’ve both watched each other grow up, rather than growing up and then watching him grow up. It’s very weird, I’m extremely close with him but it’s such a different relationship than me and my youngest. My eldest has lived every struggle with me, whereas my youngest was born into a perfect world with a mentally capable and matured mother.

It’s hard to explain, my point is that whilst it’s possible it’s also advisable you wait. But it’s totally upto you, this is just my take on it from my experience

That is the most beautiful way I have ever seen someone put something like that, that has made total sense to me! Thank you!