Telling 6 year old about pregnancy...

[PerrieGrey]

Hi all. I've just found out I'm pregnant (yey!). So unbelievably anxious/excited, and can't wait to tell my step daughter. She is 6 and has no siblings so is a first for her (and me too!). I've never done this before so am really nervous about something going wrong. The only other time I was pregnant I had a miscarriage which was painful and heartbreaking.

My questions to you... how long did you wait to tell your kids? How did they react? And how do they get along with baby now!

Thanks in advance

I don’t disagree with your point about ignorance and innocence. My point is that they aren’t ignorant to the fact there is more knowledge to be given, and that is is available. It could be quite scary for a young girl to imagine what is very factual and natural.

What level of facts are you talking about BertrandRussell? The full on dynamics of sexual intercourse? I work with children and that level of knowledge about sex at an early age would move me to make a safeguarding report. Not because I’d suspect abuse per se, but because it would be a red flag that I would feel bound to pass on to the professionals.

So if a 6 year old knew about sexual intercourse you’d consider it a safeguarding matter? You’re kidding, right?????

Yes I would. If a child was able to describe sexual intercourse in detail at 6 years old I would, while reserving judgment, report that.

However, “you are kidding right” makes me think you are not open to a polite an interesting conversation so much as spoiling for an argument. I’m going to make this my last post to you.

I’m not willing to argue with you or justify my criteria for making a safeguarding report. Nothing to hide, nothing to fear.

I just said “you’re kidding” because it seems utterly bizarre that a child knowing basic biology would be automatically considered at risk. I am pretty sure that you are taking a very extreme view. This has never been suggested in any safeguarding training I have undertaken, unless, obviously, it was part of a much bigger picture.