“Oh, so you’re only just pregnant...”

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I’m not sure if I’m being hormonal or just silly, or if this would annoy anyone else. I’m aware this is a FWP.

I’ve kept my pregnancy fairly quiet, but it has been hard going. Bad nausea, exhaustion, anxiety... but I’m now 11+2 (the 2 is so important ) and in possession of my lovely first scan photo.

I texted my friend yesterday to tell her and she responded by asking how far along I was. When I told her she said, “Aw so you are only just pregnant really.”

I felt really annoyed! I found out at 3+3 and the symptoms started later that same week... so I’ve been struggling for almost two months and it just felt so dismissive.

I don’t know what I’m looking for here to be honest, I just felt very hurt.

Is she ttc? Could she be a bit jealous? I hate comments like that. I'm 7weeks with my third, I've known since. 3.4 weeks and it's dragging!

So, for what it's worth - your way more pg then me!! Congrats 😊

Firstly. Congratulations!
Do you know what, this journey is the hardest and most personal think I have ever been though. Nobody can know how you feel and you can also not know what issues, or baggage people weird comments stem from.
My mother and sister in law are the absolute best at this. My nausea had been really bad lately and we were out having a meal with my MIL. I hadn’t even said anything about feeling sick and was admitted taking many trips to the bathroom to either be sick or get air. She turned around and said “you think this is bad” “you know nothing about it, I’ve done this four times and coped very well with difficult pregnancies”
I mean, really? People do have a tendency to minimise your experiences and that is more of a poor reflection on them. Your friend sounds a little jealous, which is sad. Perhaps you could try talking to her about it and how it mad you feel when she said that? X