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Worried husband. Private scan- small baby and no heart beat seen- ? Unable to confirm viability of pregnancy

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Forclementine1 · 03/03/2018 15:00

Hello,

Probably a bit unusual for a husband to post in here. We had a private early pregnancy scan today, I think because we were both anxious to see that everything was ok.

We feel the timing is 9 weeks, but the sonographer felt that the baby was more like 6 weeks and couldn't see a heart beat. She felt that not being able to see the heart beat at 6 weeks was normal- but neither of us can work out how we could have got the timings 3 weeks out.

We have another scan now in two weeks (I'm not sure how I can wait that long) to confirm the viability of the pregnancy.

I have tried looking to see how common this is, but can't really find much. Hoping some more experienced people might be able to point me in the right direction.

It would be nice to know how often this kind of situation sees a positive outcome.

Hope someone can help

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lunamoths · 03/03/2018 19:05

With my first DC I was doing ovulation tests etc and knew exactly when I ovulated. They then moved my dates a week forward so working back my DC would have been conceived before I had ovulated according to my tests, therefore the pregnancy may not be as far along as you think. Just try and relax and not worry too much easier said than done I know. Wishing you the best

Happened · 03/03/2018 19:25

I had this, knew the ovulation timing like you guys. I expected to be 8 weeks but measured 6 with no heartbeat (also private scan). It was confirmed as a missed miscarriage a week later with a second scan. I hope you get a better outcome than me xx

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Forclementine1 · 03/03/2018 20:05

I need a . thank you all for your help.

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Maidmummy · 04/03/2018 08:50

I had the same experience and mine did end on a happy note. Should have 8 weeks at private scan but only measured 5w5d weeks but we did see a heartbeat. Anyway had nhs scan at 11w1d and it turned out by the EDD they gave me i was actually 6w4d at my private scan so they were out by 6 days. Imo private early scans aren't 100% reliable.

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Forclementine1 · 04/03/2018 12:24

Thank you. I guess its not over till its over and my role now is to be supportive. Trying to remain positive, but also being aware that the next two weeks could be rough. Its a shame men don't have anything like this, as everyone has been so supportive in here.

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mischiefmanaged01 · 04/03/2018 22:24

If it’s any comfort for now what we thought and what was given to us as a due date at 12 week scan were 3 weeks apart! Who knows what went on there- I thought I’d tracked my ovulation etc and had a positive pregnancy test at what we thought was 5ish weeks... so I’m not entirely convinced by my EDD from the scans! Ironically baby is now measuring big 🙄

squiglyline · 05/03/2018 08:23

Hi @Forclementine1

Call your early pregnancy unit this morning and tell them you need to be seen today or just turn up.

My last period was 24th Dec and ovulated on 18th jan. we got an early scan on the 22nd feb which put me at 7 weeks. We saw a heart beat. I was told when I called the early pregnancy unit that they wouldn’t scan until 7 weeks. Mine was less then 10mm and DH and I are both tall.
I hope all goes well for you and you see a healthy baby at your scan x

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Forclementine1 · 05/03/2018 15:28

Thanks. Have the midwife tomorrow now and a repeat scan booked at the EPU next Monday.

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CatsCatsCats11 · 05/03/2018 15:49

I had this happen with some bleeding too. My cycle are irregular there was no baby or heartbeat, went back a week later and there was a baby and a heartbeat they pushed my dates back. When I went for my 12 week scan the dates went back to what I originally thought they were :-). Fingers crossed for you OP.

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Forclementine1 · 12/03/2018 17:24

Thank you all for your support. Unfortunately in the end, this didn't have a positive outcome :(

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WineAndTiramisu · 12/03/2018 17:27

Sorry to hear this, thinking of you

Dozer · 12/03/2018 17:28

Very sorry, for you both, that it was bad news. A lot of us have been there.

UnicornsandRainbows1 · 12/03/2018 20:35

I've been thinking about you guys all day. I'm so sorry

Lorddenning1 · 12/03/2018 23:06

So sorry to hear that OP, give your other half my sympathies :(

Isittimeforbed · 13/03/2018 09:08

So sorry to hear that

Baby2018 · 13/03/2018 16:09

Very sorry to hear your sad news

Bibijayne · 13/03/2018 16:28

Hello - not sure if this helps or not.

I went for an early private scan at 6w+3 (or so I thought). The sonographer could only find a small sac and said I must have my dates waaaay off and be only like 3 weeks pregnant.

I was really upset.

I had a scan at the EPU because of light spotting at 11weeks. I measured 11w+4. In fact I'd ovulated and conceived earlier than I thought.

Currently approaching 15 weeks.

I think these early scans can be very hit and miss. Which is why the NHS tends to scan much later around the 12 week mark.

Bibijayne · 13/03/2018 16:30

Oh OP - sorry, pressed send before seeing there was another page of comments. Really sorry for your sad news.

howmuchtoomuch · 13/03/2018 16:36

Of course it doesn't help Bibijayne, the OP has said that the pregnancy has ended. None of what you've said is helpful at this stage.

brianodriscoll · 13/03/2018 16:39

I'm sorry to hear this. I'm in this exact position - confirmed today after waiting two weeks that this isn't a viable pregnancy.

Your wife will now have options in terms of how to deal with it, I would have preferred surgical management but they don't have any appointments until start of April so am going for medically treated as I'm fed up of being in limbo.

There's some people on here who've given great advice.

My husband and I are really sad but our mantra is that this doesn't mean we won't have another successful pregnancy and this wasn't meant to be. It's hard but much more common than i ever realised.

All the best

Penguin34 · 13/03/2018 18:02

I had an early scan at 6.5 weeks and it was about that size, I've just had my 12 wk scan and all ok.
I too had a discrepancy with dates as my last ovulation tests said I didn't ovulate so I assumed with my positive test it said I didn't ovulate because I was already pregnant. My previous period was also really short and light so I thought that probably wasn't a real period making me 11 weeks pregnant.
However when I went to the early scan it turned out I was wrong, it was a real period and either I tested ovulation incorrectly or the test was pants.
It may just be too early for you, if you've got a positive pregnancy test and no bleeding try not to worry too much till your scan in 2 weeks.
I know it's easier said than done xxx

Penguin34 · 13/03/2018 18:04

Oh I'm so sorry, I didn't realise you'd posted further.
So sorry x

howmuchtoomuch · 13/03/2018 18:04

FFS Penguin34 read the whole thread before you post!

Penguin34 · 13/03/2018 18:14

No need for you to have a go, both me and the other poster have said sorry. We were both only trying to help and we made a mistake, you could have just let the tread go quiet!

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