Worrying in between scans, do you start to relax over time?

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This is my first baby, first scan was an early viability scan at 9 weeks, my next scan is mid march. Even though I saw the babys heartbeat at 9 weeks and that gave me lots of reassurance at the time I feel like thats wearing off and im starting to worry again and wanting to look inside there and check its ok again. I thought it would reassure me enough to relax until next time but it hasn't really worked like that!

Does it start to get more relaxed with time? or am I always going to be worrying between scans?

You might start to relax a bit more when you start feeling baby move. And also gp will be able to check heartbeat with a doppler so that might help too.
I'm the same had a scan last week at 9 weeks and have cramping today so the worry is back. Motherhood eh.

Long time lurker, made an account because I could have written this post myself a few months ago!

Firstly, congratulations on your pregnancy!

I'm also pregnant with my first baby and just over 22 weeks. I think it's completely natural to worry. I think the lead up to my 12 week scan was the most worrying time so far (and I also had an early viability scan at 9 weeks). Though if I'm completely honest, the bit between that and first feeling movement I also found tough. I did start to feel better once I started feeling movement more, and now there's no mistaking the kicks which is really reassuring! From what I've been told, you just worry about different things at different stages - during pregnancy and beyond!

The best advice I read was that it is highly highly likely that everything will be fine, and that if something terrible did happen worrying beforehand wouldn't make it any easier.

The fact that you've already seen the heartbeat is a massive positive and it's not too long until your next scan now (though I'm sure it feels like a lifetime!). Good luck - I'm sure everything will be absolutely fine

I suffer with anxiety and I am now 36+2.
Have done nothing but worry throughout to be honest lol. The first few months in between scans were the worst, I wanted a scan every week to check everything was ok. I worry a lot less now because he moves a lot and it bloody hurts so I know he's fine!

I'm 18+5 and am at that stage where I'm starting to feel really anxious about feeling first movements and getting to my 20 week scan - it's two weeks today and the time is dragging. I think you just worry about different things at different stages unfortunately!

I hate to say it but I think if anything I'm feeling more worried in the lead up to the 20 week scan than I felt before the 12 week scan - because I've been feeling so much better in the second trimester, sickness has gone, tiredness has largely gone, but not feeling any movement yet and not got a particularly prominent bump - so I don't really feel very pregnant which makes it easy to worry!

We will all get there though, one day, and one milestone, at a time!

The first trimester is very tough.
My best advice is to try and focus on the next appointment - so think of it as only 2 weeks to go! It'll fly by!
The best thing I did was to pretend that it wasn't happening. Ignorance is bliss as they say! Some days I was better at it than others.

I'd say it gets easier once you feel baby kick. I was lucky and felt kicks early on, think I was 16 weeks.

I remember wondering how I would cope after the 20 weeks scan knowing that there would be no other opportunities to see baby (unless we paid for a private scan) but feeling the kicks every day and seeing the midwife every 3 weeks - who listens to the heartbeat, is very reassuring.
Its gets better ....and then you worry about giving birth lol.

I found it much easier when I started having regular movements ❤️

I’m 17+ 3 with my surprise rainbow baby and I was a nervous wreck. I had 3 early scans before my 12 week (which was actually at 13+4) and I’ve had a sexing scan done at 16 weeks. Each and every time I’ve lay there and the first thing I’ve done is zoom in on the heartbeat and then cry as I’ve always expected bad news. It comes from having mcs and been told no baby/ or no heartbeat. I didn’t realise how traumatised it had actually left me tbh.
My baby boy has started to move this week and I’m feeling much happier and relaxed. It also seems the more relaxed I am the more he moves. I think it’s quite normal to be worried about the baby especially when your in the first trimester. I’m not as worried for my 20 week scan as I was my 12. However I’m sure I’ll just find something else to worry about any day now
Also the odds of defo in your favour if you’ve seen a heartbeat at 9 weeks. Congratulations on your pregnancy and try to enjoy it.

Thanks for creating an account to reply @summerbaby1 :)

Thanks everyone, today Ive had a head ache since yesterday and today the odd little pinching pain in my abdomen. I think its very hard when it's your first baby and you don't know what symptoms are normal.

I was thinking about buying a heartbeat doppler? does anyone else have one? I thought that might make me feel better ? Sounds like when the baby starts moving I might feel more relaxed knowing it's def in there

hannknitted that is how I feel, I dont feel that pregnant so I sometimes feel like it's not real even though Ive had a 9 week scan

Congratulations on your little one bitsandbobsalot sounds like you've had a tough time TTC and been rewarded